Overwhelmed

The Town Crossdresser

As a long-time transwoman, I got used to the anonymity of being trans.

Occasionally a letter would appear in Dear Abby or Ask Ann Landers about being transgender or someone would gain notoriety for being caught crossdressed or a new film would be released that included something transgender-related, but usually the topic of "transgender" and all of its relatives were not on the public's radar.

Then the transgenderquake occurred and its aftershocks are still being felt to this day. In fact, the aftershocks are stronger than the original quake. Now something new transgender-related appears in the media every day.

I don't know about you, but there is so much going on that I cannot keep up with it. Most of it is good, but I am overwhelmed by it all. Some days all I want to do is crawl back into bed, pull the covers over my head and dream about the good old days when I was the only crossdresser in town!

Wearing Jonathan Simkhai.

Poster for the upcoming film The Danish Girl, which
features actor Eddie Redmayne portraying Lili Elbe. 

I'm Back

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times...

I'm back from vacation. The weather was perfect, but things were very hectic.

Mother-in-law was transferred from a rest home to a hospital and we spent a lot of time visiting her. Her prognosis is not good.

On the femulation front, I continued preparing my book, Fantasia Fair Diaries, for publication and I worked with Erin Fisher-Daily on planning the Fantasia Fair Fashion Show. (The Fantasia Fair Fashion Show webpage should be updated with our plans real soon now.)

Wearing Ariella Joelle.

Actress Eva Gabor helps actor Kenneth Moore femulate.

Life's a beach!

Just a note to say that I am enjoying my vacation, taking in the beautiful weather, putting the finishing touches on my book Fantasia Fair Diaries and chasing meteors.

Flattery Will Get You Everywhere

I'm easy.

Not long after attending Fantasia Fair last fall, my long-time friend and new Executive Director of the Fair, Barbara Curry, asked me if I would be interested in co-organizing and co-emceeing the next installment of the Fantasia Fair Fashion Show. She thought that being a fashionista would suit me well in the role of co-organizer and co-emcee.

Her request surprised me. Not because I disagreed with her assessment of me, but that I had no thoughts of going to Fashion Fair in 2015.

I have attended the Fair four times between 2008 and 2014, skipping the odd years and attending the even years. Attending the Fair is expensive and going every other year makes it more affordable.

Also, my wife's health has its ups and downs and I am loathe to go away for an extended period of time leaving her alone. So not attending this year puts that to rest.

So, I thanked Barbara, told her I didn't plans to go to the Fair in 2015, but she gave me food for thought about changing my plans.

Months passed, my wife's health had bigger ups and downs and Barbara asked me if I had thought about the Fashion Show.

I laid my cards out on the table and told her that if I planned to go to the Fair, I might have to pull out at the last minute if my wife's health required it.,

Barbara handed my cards over to Erin Fisher-Daily who has been the co-organizer and co-emcee of the Fair of late and would be sharing the job with me this year. She was OK with my cards and so, I am now the co-organizer and co-emcee of the 2015 Fantasia Fair Fashion Show!

That's a far cry from skipping the Fair this year, but like I said, "I'm easy."

Wearing Alice + Olivia.

Actor Adrian R'Mante femulating in a 2006 episode
of television's The Suite Life of Zach and Cody.

In the Nude

"The only time I feel confident 'in the nude' is when I am fully clothed and wearing my nude patent leather pumps," so says Abby Walker in her weekly article for Insolia insole inserts.

I have been a long time fan of Insolia inserts and almost as long, a fan of nude high heel pumps.

Jen sold me on the insoles at a banquet I attended in 2012. I bought a set and slipped them into the next pair of high heels I planned to wear.

Insolia inserts are different from other inserts I have tried (and discarded). Instead of adding padding to the shoe, which is basically what those other shoe inserts do, "Insolia Inserts shift weight off of the ball of the foot back to the heel by placing the foot in the optimal position for high heels."

As a result, high heels are comfortable longer than they would be sans the inserts. They really work and since that time, I automatically buy a new pair of Insolia inserts whenever I buy a new pair of high heels.

And about two years ago, I learned about the advantages of nude shoes from my fashionista reading. I won't steal Abby's thunder - you can read her thoughts about nude colored heels here - but I agree wholeheartedly with her take on the topic and have stocked up on nude heels in a variety of styles.

Nude high heel pumps have become my go-to shoe.

Wearing Gerard-Darel top and Halston Heritage skirt.

Femulating in Paris circa 1960.

Weekend Update

Thank you for signing the Change.org petition to help transgender Facebook users get their identities back. Thanks to you, the petition was a success and will be submitted to Facebook real soon now.

Check this out: 101 Beauty Mistakes You're Probably Making from DailyMakeover. Nobody’s perfect, although I’m trying, and there is probably a few mistakes that each of us can correct.

This coming week, I will be on vacation and be busy putting the finishing touches on my new book, Fantasia Fair Diaries; so I may not have a new blog post each and every day.

And so it goes.

Wearing Sandra Darren.

Peter Sellers femulating in the 1959 British film The Mouse That Roared.

Coming Very Soon!

My new book!

Fantasia Fair Diaries will be available as a printed trade paperback and as an electronic book (e-book). The tentative publication date of my book is September 1.

Wearing Young Fabulous & Broke. 

They enjoy being girls!

Help Us Get Our Identities Back!

A glance at any list in Facebook will easily reveal many obviously made-up names. So why are only some people losing their accounts? Because Facebook uses their reporting system to identify accounts that users think are fake. Why would a user report a fake name account? One is that they are a troll. They hate people with opposing views and want a chance to find and harass them in real life.

Another is that they are a transphobes. 

By using pictures, posts and memberships in trans-related groups, transphobes have identified and had suspended hundreds, maybe thousands of accounts of people who self-identify as trans. This is embarrassing, humiliating and potentially dangerous for those closeted, part-timers and others requiring a level of privacy from those who wish to do them harm.

Corrine is one such person. It has been two months since she was forced to use her "dead name" account on Facebook. This is more than an inconvenience. This has caused untold misery in the face of her courageous journey of transition.

Facebook has made itself indispensable in terms of contacts with friends, contacts with support networks, including professional services. For those who are disabled or otherwise socially isolated, it has become a lifeline. Leaving Facebook is inconceivable for the many, who have experienced the benefits of social-networking, and have found that nothing right now can replace it, at least not for average people without resources like Caitlyn or Janet or Kristin or Jazz.

So why does Zuckerberg insist on continuing a policy that not only empowers trolls but strips victims of their privacy and protections? 

Does he not recognize that only certain groups of people are being targeted for account suspension? Of course he does, and he's good with it too.

We are fighting back and right now, we have nearly 1800 others who have signed our petition to fight back. Can you please sign our petition and share it wherever you can? 

Thank you, 

Corrine and Michelle (and Stana)

Wearing BB Dakota.

Actor/comedian Paul Lynde femulating in the 1966 film Glass Bottom Boat.

Happy Birthday to the Sprouse Twins

The Sprouse boys are 23 today! That's Cole (left) in the film The Heart Is Deceitful Above All Things and Dylan (right) in television's The Suite Life of Zach and Cody.

Wearing Rachel Zoe.

 Matthew Knight and Atticus Mitchell femulate
in television's My Babysitter's A Vampire (2011).

Long Weekend

Bandy and Me, Provincetown 2014

My weekend started mid-morning Friday when I received a phone call at work informing me that my 95-year-old mother-in-law was hospitalized after being found "unresponsive" in bed at the retirement home where she had been living.

We assumed this was her end and began making plans for a funeral as we drove to the hospital where we spent the day at her bedside.

According to the hospital staff, she had pneumonia and maybe a heart attack.

We returned to the hospital Saturday and found a new woman. She did have pneumonia, but did not have a heart attack and was recovering nicely from the meds and treatments she received at the hospital. And we were relieved that there would not be a funeral.

Spending time at her bedside, we did not accomplish much this weekend. I did find time to reserve a room at Chicago House in Provincetown for Fantasia Fair in October. I did not want to get shut-out room-wise if I decide to go, so I figured the sooner, the better that I reserve a room.

I am holding off registering for the event itself until I get a better feeling for my wife's health status. I probably can do a half-week, maybe more, but I will wait and see.

Wearing Ann Taylor.

Actor Pyotr Krasilov (third from right) femulating in
Russian television's All Mixed in the House (2006).

Fall

Dave Foley femulates for the Halloween
office party on television's NewsRadio.

We are on the brink of August, which means we are on the brink of autumn, my favorite season.

Some of you are thinking, "She's crazy! Summer is only half over... there are over six weeks before fall arrives."

By the calendar, that is true, but in my neck of the woods on the top of a 1000-foot hill in Southern New England, the summer weather lasts about eight weeks tops and the autumn weather shows up in late August (there is a tree across the street that begins changing colors in about two weeks).

I do not enjoy hot summer weather. When the thermometer is in the neighborhood of 90 degrees, I glisten profusely due to the wig, makeup, shapewear, etc. Sure, I could wear my bikini when the weather heats up, but summer will be over by the time I get rid of all the hair that fashion statement requires. So autumn is for me.

As fall approaches, my thoughts turn to Fantasia Fair. I have attended four times, always have a great time and would love to see the friends I have made at past Fairs, but due to family health issues, I cannot get away for a week, However, a half-week might be doable... I will have to make up my mind soon if I want to get a room at the inn.

Autumn also means that Halloween is on its way. In fact, it is three months from today, but falls on a Saturday this year.

Going to work en femme on Halloween has become an annual event, but since I don't work on Saturdays, I will have to go to work en femme on the Friday before Halloween. Since Fridays are casual dress days at my workplace, skinny jeans or leggings might be more appropriate than a skirt or dress, but I have plenty of time to decide.

Wearing DressBarn.

Seth Atwell, male model of womenswear.