Catch 22

 

Wearing Bebe

Akihiro Miwa, femulating Japanese singer, actor, director, composer and author

Friday (What an original title!)

Buyer Beware Dept.

On August 4, I ordered two dresses from New York & Company. 

On August 10, the dresses were delivered. I tried on both dresses and they were too big. 

On August 11, I sent the dresses back via USPS (United States Postal System) for a refund.

On August 15, I received an email stating “YOUR RETURN IS BEING PROCESSED! Please allow 1 to 3 business days for your refund to be credited to your original payment method.”

It is nearly three months later and I have not received a refund. 

I have exchanged emails with New York & Company’s customer service. They say they have not received my return. I say, why did they email me that my return is being processed if they did not receive my return?

I am at a loss of what to do next, but I do know that I will never order anything from New York & Company again and I will never again show their wares in the Femulate Her slot.

Halloween Encounter with a Colleague

By Paula Gaikowski

Last week, while working online with my colleague, a cheerful woman in her 60’s, our conversation took a delightful turn toward Halloween. Little did I know that this discussion would lead to an unforgettable connection and a dash of personal revelation.

As we chatted, my colleague shared stories of her past Halloweens, particularly huge Halloween parties featuring crossdressing contests and drag shows that she attended. In response, I chuckled and mentioned my plans for Halloween were dressing up as a woman. She couldn’t hide her excitement and urged me, “Please get some pictures!”

With a mix of apprehension and a desire to connect, I confessed that I had already taken some snapshots during a costume try-on session the previous weekend. I didn’t mention that I am typically trying on costumes every weekend of the year.

In a brave move, I shared my screen, revealing my three en femme costume choices. One featured me in black pants and a matching top, another in a flowing skirt and sweater with funky boots and the third in a sleek pencil skirt, a black sweater, modest heels and an air of confidence.

Her reaction was the epitome of positivity and support. She not only complimented the outfits, but also candidly told me which one she preferred. It was heartwarming to witness such acceptance and our ensuing conversation was filled with laughter and camaraderie.

After this impromptu and encouraging chat, I couldn’t help but wonder how my revelation might affect our professional relationship. The following Monday as we met online again, her very first question was, “How was your weekend? How did the party go?”

I beamed and told her it went splendidly, though I had opted for a different outfit – a teal skirt suit that had long been a favorite. 

She couldn’t contain her curiosity and asked to see a picture. I obliged and shared details about my days presenting as a woman. I shared a few anecdotes about going out and about as a woman, how I found it exciting and fun to cross boundaries and see life from a different perspective.

 

In sharing these tales, I subtly dropped hints about my identity, though I hadn’t explicitly mentioned being transgender. However, the descriptive narrative I told was thinly veiled by the cover of Halloween. She was probably expecting a caricature of a woman, the man in a dress prank. My accomplished femulation probably extinguished any doubts about this being my first time to the rodeo.

The conversation was filled with positivity and praise.

“I think it’s great that you did this.”

  

The feeling of validation was nothing short of exhilarating. It was as though I had found a new friend who appreciated and celebrated this part of me that I’ve kept hidden for decades.

Reflecting on this memorable encounter, I can’t help but smile. It’s incredible how a simple conversation about Halloween can lead to profound connections and understanding. 

While the Good Ship Lollipop might not be everyone’s preferred mode of transport, it’s a wonderful feeling to sail on it, embraced by acceptance and camaraderie. 

Who knew that discussing Halloween costumes could lead to such a heartwarming connection in the midst of the corporate world?

Wearing St. John

Thursday Funnies

Wearing alice + olivia top and Walter Baker skirt

Ricky Renée, professional femulator

Not Just for Halloween

Halloween has come and gone and I did not participate this year because my plans were hijacked by a last minute change in my wife’s therapy schedule. Also I was recovering from a 24-hour bug, so I was better off staying home instead of prancing around in a short skirt on a cold October day.

 

And so it goes.

Meanwhile, I read some of my old Halloween posts and decided to revisit the one I posted in August 2017, shortly after my retirement.

In that post, Gina V asked...

Don't your colleagues ask you… How come you seem to be very good at turning yourself into a woman and enquire as to if there might be a bit more to it than the occasional Halloween appearance?

My reply...

Believe it or not, no one, male or female, has ever asked. Some have made humorous comments and some have complimented me on my appearance. I can only recall one snarky comment: one fellow wondered how I just happened to have all the makings of my costume just for Halloween, inferring that I dressed on other occasions, too.

Turns out that shortly after that post, I discovered that most of my colleagues assumed I was trans-something or other. In fact, many thought that I would dress en femme at work the last few weeks before I retired or at least, dress en femme for my going-away party.

Crossdressing for my last day of work and my going-away party crossed my mind, but I did not because I thought my trans-ness was safely locked away in my closet despite my Halloween appearances. That was very naive of me.

When I attended the company Christmas party en femme in December, I apologized to my closest friends because I felt guilty about my Halloween costume sham. They all said no apology was necessary because they assumed that my “costume” represented the real me; no harm was done.

Yes, no one ever asked me about my femulating skills – they didn’t have to.

Wearing Venus

Another beautiful femulator, Melanie Valentine

Happy Halloween!

Wearing Boston Proper

Dave Foley en femme in the Halloween episode of television’s News Radio.
Click here to view this femulation on YouTube.

Stuff 16

By J.J. Atwell

Hello All

JJ is back with more stuff! 

I wonder how many of us partake in some beauty regimes. As I think about it, I would guess that the answer is most of us. What is your favorite?

Facials

JJ frequents a salon that offers various services including massages, waxing and facials. I usually schedule a massage once a month. But on days that JJ is planning on going out, she likes to get a facial that morning. I find it helps me get a close shave before applying my makeup.

A couple of points about getting a facial. First, it really is pleasurable! You’ll experience lots of different sensations as the technician applies and removes various lotions and serums to your face. All you have to do is just lay back and let it happen. 

When going for a facial you’re told not to shave for about 12 hours before your facial. I usually give it a full day. I also schedule it for the morning even if I’m not going out until night.

After the facial, I let my face rest for a few hours. When starting my transformation, I start with a hot shower. I shave with a brand new razor blade, not just once but twice. The second time making sure to go against the grain. This gives a very close shave. That’s very important for me as my beard is relatively heavy. Fortunately, much of it is turning grey, so the five o’clock shadow is less of a problem that I need to cover up. But even so, I need a smooth surface to apply primer and foundation.

So consider getting a facial. Perhaps before your next girls night out!

I’ll be back

I’ll cover more of the makeup process, including getting a makeover, in a future column. Until then, I’d welcome comments here on the blog or by email at Jenn6nov at-sign gmail dot com.

Wearing Dress Barn

Milton Berle (right) femulating on a 1959 episode of television’s
The Lucy Desi Comedy Hour.

Someday Funnies

Wearing Venus

Get Back

Wearing St. John

Timothy Bottoms in the television movie Escape.

Friday Femulating Fun

Leon emailed me about a crossdressing scenario in a 1993 video game called Space Quest IV: Roger Wilco and the Time Rippers. It seems that our hero, Mr. Wilco, must pass as the owner of a stolen ATM card, so naturally he decides to dress up as the owner: a pretty blonde woman. He goes to the dress store, tells the robot clerk that he’s shopping for a friend... who’s his size!

Been there, done that – who hasn’t?

Click here to view it on YouTube. The crossdressing scene begins at the 27:15 mark.

Wearing Venus

Sissy Princess Annie at Disney World
Annie's blog: https://sissymommyslittledarlings.blogspot.com
Annie on flickr: https://www.flickr.com/photos/196949864@N04/

Thursday Toon

Wearing Reiss

Girl and Boy: Yet another modern couple