Got Boobs, Need Buns

Goddess blessed me with womanly breasts. Since puberty, I could fill a bra – a femulator’s dream come true. On the other hand, I have no rear end to speak of – a femulator’s nightmare.

Over the years, as I tried to perfect my femulation, I thought about doing something about my caboose, but was turned off by an acquaintance who overdid it. I did not want to look ridiculous like she did, so I went without.

On yet another hand, years later I met a lady who had a great figure – not over-the-top like my earlier acquaintance. Her figure was just right and very convincing. That got me thinking about revisiting my rear end (or lack thereof).

I wear a girdle, so I sampled a few that had built-in padding to enhance the derriere. But I rejected them – although they added to my back end, they were lacking in the girdle department losing my narrower waist and wider hips in the process. So I was back to square one.

Perusing the Rago website one day, I noticed that they sold a panty with rear end padding. Known as Rago model 915, I thought that I could wear the 915 over my Rago girdle and have it all – narrower waist, wider hips and bigger buns!

I ordered a Rago 915 and as soon as I got it, I wore it over my girdle and it did the trick! I was very happy and have been wearing the girdle and padded panty combo ever since. 

The only thing that the 915 lacks is the “split crotch” that my Rago girdle includes. That is not a big problem because the panty slips on and off easily when it is time to pee.

And so I go. 

And by the way, the folks at Rago are aware of girls like us who favor their shapewear and as a result, Rago is now offering a 15% sitewide discount to Femulate fans and readers. Just use the stana15 discount code when you shop at the Rago website. How cool is that!

Wearing Tory Burch

Perfectly attired femulator out and about

Someday Funnies: Spring Forward

Wearing Nine West

Phillipe Blond

More Ask Me Anything Answers

In response to my request to ask me anything, Christina Cross asked three questions.

1) How often/frequency do you femulate?

Never often enough! 

Normally I get out and about en femme a couple of times each month as well as dress at home even more often than that. But my “normal” schedule was disrupted the last ten months or so by my bad knee. It has been four months since my total knee replacement surgery and I’d say that I’m about 95% recovered, so I am hoping to get out more often now that I am approaching normality.

 

2) When you are not femulating, in your mind do you still see yourself as Stana? Or is that only during your femulating times?

I am the same en femme or en homme. I do not switch between personalities – my normal personality is definitely on the feminine side of the street and I do not man up when en homme. So I guess I am Stana most of the time.

3) When you are not femulating do you dress in stealth, aka wearing androgynous women's clothes such as pants and shirts?

My “male” wardrobe is a mix of traditional male and female clothing. For example, my underwear bottoms are woman’s panties and most of my jeans are woman’s. I probably could use a bra, but that is a bridge too far, so I go bra-less in boy mode.

Ask me something else.

Wearing New York & Company

Eric

Someday Funnies: Endless

Wearing Self Portrait

Fran Heuser

Someday Funnies: A Solution in Skirts

Wearing StyleWe

Miss Britney Smith

What Took So Long?

Most of my life, I knew I was trans-something. In fact, I was trans-something even before I knew all the trans terminology (transvestite, transgender, transsexual, etc.).  In fact, I was trans-something before the word “transgender” was created (yes, I am old).

And for a long time, I professed that I was a “plain-vanilla crossdresser,” that is, someone who crossdressed for the joy the of wearing women’s fashions... not someone who crossdressed because they identified as a woman.

Heaven forbid! That wasn't me. I wasn't one of those people!

Despite a lot of evidence to the contrary, I was afraid to make the great leap that I was a woman. That would be a big leap and would rock the foundation of my existence.

In retrospect, I would have probably felt pretty pretty good if I had made that leap way back then, but I worried about what they would think! I always worried about what they would think and I led my life to please them, not me. So I denied all the evidence and stuck to my “plain-vanilla crossdresser” story.

About 15 years ago, after months of counseling, a life coach finally helped me to make that leap. Instead of denying all the evidence, I embraced it and accepted the fact that I was a woman.

Afterall, it all made sense. The feminine speech and mannerisms. The preference for girl things rather than boy things. The gynecomastia caused by an over-abundance of female hormones and/or lack of male hormones. An over-abundance of female hormones.

And I was proud to be a woman, not ashamed of it. I began coming out to my friends and colleagues and I began living authentically whenever the opportunity presented itself.

And it didn't hurt a bit!

Wearing Ann Taylor

Angela, out and about again

Someday Funnies: “Man” Redefined

Wearing Bebe

Daniel Furlong

Monica: A Film Review

By Mikki

As a kid, Monica couldn’t hide the fact that “he” was a girl. Eventually, her mother took her to the bus station and sent her on her way, telling her, “I can no longer be your mother.” We learn this, as it isn’t shown. It’s good we never hear her dead name.

Monica gets a call as the film starts. It’s from her sister-in-law telling her that her mother is dying from a brain tumor and asking her to come home from California. Monica decides to return home (we aren’t told where she’s going). This will be the first time her mother or brother has seen Monica. 

Monica is very low-key about introducing herself to her mother, who wonders who she is. In addition to her family, the mother has a Latina caregiver. It’s clear early on that Monica has considerable love for her mother. She’s very attentive and caring with plenty of touching. 

So, will she tell her mother? Will her mother figure it out? I'll give you a bit of a spoiler -- Monica’s brother, after getting over the initial shock of seeing his sister, sees the loving care and warms up to Monica. Will Monica fit/be welcomed into the family? Do we think she'll eventually move back to California? 

Trace Lysette does a wonderful job and as always, Patricia Clarkson knocks it out of the park. Everyone in the post-film discussion had positive things to say about the film  except for the “Too slow’ comments. 

I highly recommend the film.

(You can view the film’s trailer by clicking here.)

Wearing Boston Proper

Tony Bill femulating in the 1963 film Soldier in the Rain.

Memorial Day

My father was a Marine. He fought in three battles in the Pacific during World War II and brought home two Purple Hearts and shrapnel in his arm.

He was a great father and was proud of his kids. Although I was far from being the “All-American Boy,” he never had a problem with me even when I started to dress en femme whenever I was invited out for Halloween. 

Except for those Halloween forays, I was closeted, but in retrospect, I know that my parents knew something was amiss with their son, but they never commented in a negative way. And I am sure they would have been supportive if I ever came out. 

I’ll never forget one Halloween as I was getting ready to go out en femme, my father warned me to watch out for boys!

Thank you for everything you did, Pop!

 

Wearing Cinq à Sept

Someday Funnies: Just Do It!

Wearing Elisabetta Franchi

Richard Simmons