Why I am girly

I easily fill a B cup and enjoy wearing a bra without padding or falsies. I always assumed that my ladylike breasts were due to Gynecomastia and/or too many female hormones. Let me explain.

My mother had a miscarriage before she had me. Back then, physicians prescribed Diethylstilbestrol (DES) to prevent future miscarriages.

Did my mother take DES? She is deceased, so I will never know. But, if she did take DES, then that may explain why I am the way I am.

DES can cause feminization of the male fetus and some studies suggest that otherwise-male children exposed to DES before birth may be more likely to be transsexual women than otherwise-male children who have not been exposed.

Although I will never know if my mother took DES, there are other indications that she did. For example, I have Gynecomastia and although the causes of common Gynecomastia remain uncertain, it has generally been attributed to an imbalance of sex hormones, that is, too much estrogen.

In addition to Gynecomastia, I am more womanly than the average guy in other ways. For example, my mannerisms and speech patterns have feminine traits and my thoughts and emotions are more feminine than masculine.

A few years ago, I was doing outreach with three transsexuals at a local college and a student asked how the transsexuals' hormone regimen affected them. All three transsexuals admitted that they became more emotional after they began their hormone regimen, for example, one stated that she never cried at movies before taking hormones, but after taking hormones, she cried at movies all the time. I spoke up that I never took hormones and that I cry at movies all the time!

An overabundance of female hormones may be the cause of my proclivity for the feminine. And my parents may have nurtured that proclivity.

Dad was absent in my early life working two jobs to support his wife and kids. Mom cherished her firstborn child (me), coddled and pampered me and instilled in me many traits that were considered “feminine.” With Dad absent early-on, Mom was all I had to model myself after and that I did, which just compounded my feminization."

I had two strikes against me (too many female hormones and too little male role modeling) and when my third opportunity to swing came, I just stood there with the bat on my shoulder and was called out (of the male gender) on a called third strike.

I did not bother swinging because I liked myself. I was very satisfied with the results of the first two strikes. I liked the way things were turning out. I did not mind being a girly boy.

Except for some abuse from bullies and rejection by their female followers, being a girly boy was a pretty good deal. I could partake in whatever boy or girl pursuits interested me and not have to worry about tarnishing my image.

And when I took up the male pursuit of female impersonation, I found that I excelled at it because I already spoke and acted like a lady, took to the art of cosmetics like a swan takes to water and could fill a bra without any padding.

And so it goes.

Wearing Venus

Femulating in the 1920’s

Someday Funnies: Blushing Boy Bride

Wearing Staud

Meshach Taylor femulating on television’s Designing Women.

He’s the Mother

In my retirement, I have become a housewife mainly because my spouse abandoned that role as her health deteriorated. I perform all of the chores a housewife performs including cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, sewing, etc. In addition, I also perform all of the chores that a husband performs including yard work, house maintenance and fixing what is broken.

I imagine there are a lot of girls like me who are similarly situated performing the housewife role to some degree (or totally). But how many trans girls perform the role of mother? 

My daughter flew the coop years ago, but when she lived in our home, I unknowingly filled in as her mother. By “unknowingly” I mean that I was parenting as best as I could without realizing that I was mothering more than fathering. 

My wife often commented that I should have been the mother. Since I took after my mother in so many ways, I assume that my parenting skills were more on the distaff side of the tracks, too.

I wonder if other girls like us were more motherly rather than fatherly. It makes sense that we would be since we are feminine in so many other ways.

And so it goes.

Wearing New York & Company

Joe femulating at the family Christmas Eve dinner in 1980.

Someday Funnies: Farther to Fall, Father

Wearing Venus

Just another womanless beauty pageant contestant!

Is it safe?

I have not been out since I had surgery. I missed two opportunities (lunch with the ladies and an outreach at a college) because of a family issue and a health issue. My knee surgery is not an issue, so I am ready and willing to go out en femme, but is it safe?

In the past, I did not think twice about going anywhere and everywhere en femme, but reading a report about a gay couple who were attacked in Times Square gives me pause.  

I pass most of the time I go out. At least I never get called out as a “man in a dress” (or worse) because I believe that my presentation is good enough so that if anyone thinks something is amiss, they will think twice about confronting me because they might be wrong.

I probably have nothing to fear, but with all the hate and guns and haters with guns out there, I have to be careful (and so should you).

Wearing Lanvin (suit), La Perla (bodysuit) and Chanel (earrings).

Peter Scolari femulating on television’s Bosom Buddies.

Someday Funnies: Dressing the Mann

Wearing Bebe

Chris Rock femulating in the face of Will Smith in a 1995 episode of television’s
The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air.

Forced Femulation

Yesterday, GoComics ran the following “Peanuts” comic strip from May 10, 1955:

I have been a “Peanuts” fan like forever and do not recall ever seeing this strip before and being a femulator, like forever, I would have remembered it.

The strip reminded me of a forced femulation that occurred early in my life when I was in kindergarten and was forced to be a mommy playing house with other male mommies. (You can read all about that by clicking here.)

“Initially, I felt embarrassed playing a mommy, but it did not seem to bother the other boys, so I played along like a girl with the rest of the boys.

“I wonder if any of my fellow mommies became femulators like me.”

Source: Rue La La

Laurence Olivier and Kenneth More femulating for Night of 100 Stars in 1960.

Someday Funnies: Nobody’s Perfect

Wearing Free People

Stanley Baxter femulating on British television Christmas show in 1986.

Crossdressing Sans Skirts

When I started crossdressing in the early 1960’s, women wore skirts and dresses much more often than they wore pants and trousers. As a result, I always wore skirts and dresses when I crossdressed. Pants and trousers were never a wardrobe option. After all, they didn’t call it crossdressing for nothing! If I wanted to wear pants and trousers, I could remain in boy mode and not get pretty.

Times change. As the 20th Century wound down, women wore pants and trousers as often as they wore skirts and dresses. And approaching the quarter century mark of the 21st Century, many women have abandoned skirts and dresses altogether and wear pants and trousers exclusively.

As fashion mores changed, I stuck to my guns and refused to wear pants and trousers and only wore skirts and dresses in girl mode. But I finally relented circa 2010 and began adding bifurcated bottoms to my wardrobe including shorts, jeans, slacks, suits, etc.  

I still like to wear skirted womenswear, but do not shun pants and trousers as I did in younger days. And I’d love to rock an outfit at work like the one featured in today’s Femulate Her slot below. Wouldn’t you?

 

Wearing Ann Taylor

Donald Dillaway femulating in the 1934 film The Circus Clown.

Someday Funnies: Family Resemblance

Wearing New York & Co.

Clay Adkins femulating in a 2002 episode of television’s The Guardian.