Someday Funnies: Any Port in a Store

Wearing New York & Company

1982 Closet Ball Queen competitors

Friendship is Aspirational

By Tami Knight

I am not religious, but do value Judeo-Christian culture, teachings and traditions. I also appreciate those that enjoy a sense of community and belonging by attending church. With this in mind, I began visiting a local Congregational church over the last year.

Some context: I pass extremely well (5'9", 28" waist, my hair is brown, medium-length bob). My voice is pretty good, too, but I might give out clues in a longer conversation with someone. I dress like any other female does wherever I am and carry myself with a sense of pride. At church, I always wear a conservative dress and low heels.

While I can't make every Sunday as I like to travel, I can usually make time once or sometimes twice a month. What I did not expect and so enjoy about these times is that there hasn’t been a Sunday that someone hasn’t stepped up with a smile and introduced themselves to me. Mostly it is the women who are more social. 

When I walk in, I am thanked for coming. After the service in the fellowship room for coffee, I am always chatting with one, two or three women at a time. Yesterday, I met someone who shared my interest in the Detroit Symphony and ballet at the Michigan Opera Theater. It turns out that we had seen many of the same performances and seeing Misty Copeland dance is in our bucket list.

So with all the talk of a war (or push back) on aspects of the “trans movement,” it needs to be said that it isn’t everywhere or from everyone for any reason. I have no doubt that my pastor and some of the women I have befriended have or might have figured me out. But how does one explain the friendly faces, smiles, laughter from so many women and husbands?

Friendship is aspirational. When we meet someone we like, it is because we find aspects of them we admire.

Wearing Venus

To Angela Booth, everyday is dress day!

Someday Funnies

Wearing Alice + Olivia

Sweden’s After Dark femulating showgirls

Colors: It’s all about skin tone

Reader Romney asked me to talk about colors. 

I am not an expert. Through experimentation, I have learned what colors look good and don’t look good on me.

Experimentation is expensive. Putting together outfits of varied colors just to discard those that don’t work can quickly empty your purse. There has to be a better way and it is called “color analysis.”

Myimperfectlife.com has an excellent article “how to find the shades that will make you look—and feel—your best.” The article provides a step-by-step guide for determining your best colors. Click here to read it.

By the way, turns out that I am “cool’ despite what some people say (LOL), so blue, emerald, purple, lavender and icy blue should populate my wardrobe. My bright colors are pink, ruby rosy reds—and for the neutrals, white, navy blues and cool grays.

Have a colorful day!

Wearing Bebe

Luis Montalbert femulating Kylie Minogue on Costa Rican television’s Tu cara me suena.

Someday Funnies

Wearing Chicwish

University of Wisconsin-Madison Harefoot Club male chorus girls, circa 1920’s

Getting Better All the Time

Today marks six weeks since I had total knee replacement surgery. I have three more sessions of rehab this week and then I see my surgeon on Friday for a final post-surgery check-up.

I am not 100% yet. Going down stairs is still an issue; I think it is doable, but I have to convince myself that I can do it. 

Don't need a cane any longer, but I still carry one just in case (like when I walked in the woods for the first time on Friday).

I figure that later this month, I will be ready to go out and will probably do lunch en femme.

And finally, thank you all for your birthday wishes last week! Hope the next 52 weeks will be better than the previous 52.

Wearing Fore Collection

Daniel Furlong, womenswear model

Films of Late

I am a big movie fan and usually watch the Oscars to see which movies and movie stars win what awards. During the build-up for tonight’s Oscars, all I hear is how the film Everything Everywhere All at Once is the favorite to win the best film award. Its actors are also nominated for best actor and actress.

I viewed the film last night on Showtime. To say I was disappointed is an understatement. It is one of the worst films I have ever seen. My hate for the film continued to build the longer I watched it and I would have changed channels if my spouse did not insist on seeing it to the end. She disliked the film, too, but figured that after investing two hours with this turkey, she mighty as well see it all.

In my opinion, a much better nominated film is The Banshees of Inisherin, but I don't have high hopes that it will win anything.

And so it goes.

Someday Funnies

Wearing Chicwish

Arturo Valls femulates Rihanna on Spanish television’s Tu cara me suena.
You can view this femulation on YouTube.

National Dress Day Participants

Wearing Brandon Maxwell

Alastair Sim (left) femulating in the 1954 British film The Belles of St. Trinian's.

Items of Interest

Hump Day Femulation Dept.

A promo for this weekend’s episode of Saturday Night Live has guest host Jenna Ortega interacting with the Please Don’t Destroy boys who are crossdressed as Wednesday of Addams Family. I don't know if the boys will appear crossdressed on the show or if their  appearance is strictly for the promo. So stay tuned.

Monika Interviews Mariette Dept.

Monika alerted me to her recent interviews with Mariette Pathy Allen, who has been taking photos of our community for almost 50 years.

(I ran into Mariette at various trans gatherings in the past. In fact, I danced with her at Fantasia Fair about 10 years ago. But she never took a photo of me! LOL)

College Resources Dept.

Sierra from BestAccreditedColleges.org wrote that their team created a guide, the Top 50 LGBTQ-Friendly Colleges, which provides essential information on the best colleges for LGBTQ students, including:

• Campus clubs
• LGBTQ housing
• Campus safety
• Counseling
• LGBTQ-inclusive policies

These factors are vital for creating supportive and inclusive environments for LGBTQ students and the guide provides comprehensive information on the top colleges that offer these resources. Click here to view the guide.

Wearing Venus

A modern Japanese couple

Someday Funnies

Wearing Adrianna Papell

Bradley Whitford and Jeffrey Tambor femulating on the television series Transparent.