Doing Something Write

Everyday, I  receive email related to this blog. Most of it is positive and occasionally the email indicates that I hit it out of the ballpark like the following email from Faye.

Dear Stana,

May I tell you how much I have always enjoyed reading the Femulate website. Many a working day was brightened by the Someday Funnies or your down to earth approach to the ups and downs of being the women we are.

I did say how many’s working day had been brightened by reading Femulate, because after 30 years working for the same company, of which five years I worked as Faye and winning employee of the month and then employee of the year on two occasions over those five years I have finally retired.

I was presented with some lovely gifts by the other ladies, and from the head office in Hamburg I received a very generous monetary gift, this woman will be hitting the shops big time!!!

In contrast to my office wear, today my high heels remained in the wardrobe and business dresses on their hangers. I could not pull myself down to wearing leggings to do the top to bottom house clean that I would so often have to do on my day off ( the weekend ), hence the skirt and top!!, and on completing the bedrooms and bathroom I sat myself down and took the enclosed pic.

I am humble enough to know that if not for you and your own experiences in and out the office , I would never have achieved the acceptance and confidence I received from my Supervisor, HR and the other women in the office. Thank you Stana and thank you on behalf of every one of us whose heels have followed on the path created by yourself.

Though an ocean separates us, our sisterhood will always bring us together.

Faye xx

Wearing Bebe

Another office femulator

Someday Funnies: Happy Father’s Day

Wearing Chickwish

Father of the bride

Fantastic Film Femulations

Lee Pace in Soldier’s Girl

A few days ago, Mikki commented that Mehdi Dehbi in the film He’s My Girl “does the best job of female impersonation I’ve ever seen in a film. Unlike very many of these films, there’s no reason to go into ‘deliberate suspension of belief’ when perceiving Naim/Habiba as a female.”

I admit that my trans-radar did not sound off immediately when I first saw Mehdi Dehbi in that film and he should receive two bra cups up for his femulation. On the other hand, there are other film femulations that can compete with Mehdi Dehbi. 

Lee Pace in Soldier’s Girl, Romain Duris in The New Girlfriend and Matthias Schweighöfer in Woman in Love come to mind immediately and I am sure there are others that are just as good. (For a long time, I thought Tony Curtis’ femulation in Some Like It Hot was excellent until I discovered that his very female voice was dubbed in – by a man, Paul Frees.)

That’s just my opinion. So who do you think was an excellent film femulator? Let us know in the Comments below.

Wearing Retro Stage

Matthias Schweighöfer femulating in the 2011 German film Woman in Love (Rubbeldiekatz).

Someday Funnies: The Long and Short of It

Wearing Bebe

Two 1950-era femulators in the 2006 British short Private Life.

Very Comfortable

A reader commented, “You must feel very comfortable in your skin to be able to go into the situations you go into Stana.”

Yes, I am very comfortable.

I admit that before I take that first step out the door en femme, I am a little hesitant. Part of it is due to fear and part of it is due to awe.

 “Fear” that something may go wrong. (Except for wardrobe and automobile malfunctions nothing has ever gone wrong.)

“Awe” that I am actually going out en femme and functioning as a woman in society.

I hesitate for only a moment or two, then push myself out the door.

As soon as I hear the click of my high heels on the floor, pavement, sidewalk, or wherever I take those first steps, I stop thinking about being en femme because at that point, I am femme.

Wearing New York & Company

Ronnie Barker femulating on British televisions’s The Two Ronnies.

Someday Funnies: High Heel Help

Wearing Ococo Sand

Mehdi Dehbi femulating in the 2009 French film He’s My Girl (La Folle Histoire d’amour de Simon Eskenazy).

Separated at Birth

In an email titled, “She looks just like you...,” Tami wrote, “when i first saw this short video i thought it was you!”

I was flattered and responded, “Separated at birth! LOL”

Tami retorted, “You should post her video and link to her site... see if others see the resemblance that I saw. She also seems to have a similar fashion sense, with pretty feminine clothing. She also has very feminine mannerisms - she’s someone all of us 'gurls' should strive to femulate!”

Do I resemble her, who BTW goes by the name “Deborah Boland”? 

In my opinion, there is some resemblance especially when my hair is blond. But I should be so thin – Deborah probably weighs 70 pounds less than me! 

I do agree that our fashion sense is similar – emphasizing pretty feminine clothing – and my mannerisms are comparable to hers. And absolutely yes, she is someone all of us should strive to femulate.

By the way, Deborah also has a YouTube page, which I now subscribe to.  Coincidentally, I also am subscribed to Schellea’s Fabulous 50s YouTube page. (Wonder if there is a Fabulous 70s YouTube page. If not, maybe I should start one!)

Wearing New York & Company

Abdel Moneim Ibrahim femulating in the 1960 Egyptian film Sukkar Hanem (Lady Sugar).

Someday Funnies: Now Showing

Wearing Venus

Femulating in short-shorts

A Past Outreach

Yesterday, December 2, 2008, I did outreach for two Human Sexuality classes at Southern Connecticut State University. I did not go shopping as planned because I did not feel up to dealing with the Christmas shopping crowds that seemed to be out in full force yesterday.

As usual, I was the token crossdresser in the group doing outreach. The others were pre-op, post-op, and no-op male-to-female and female-to-male transsexuals and a spouse. In the first class, there were six in the group. In the second class, there were seven. In the past, about four was the max. As a result, the biography portion of the class was longer and ate into the Q&A portion of the class. I enjoy the Q&A more than the bio portion of the class because I have heard all the bios before and although I’ve also heard many of the questions before, there are usually one or two new questions that make things interesting.

Anna Schildroth, the professor of the class scored big points with me. When I saw her for the first time yesterday, she asked, “Did you lose weight?”

I admitted that I lost eight pounds and I was happy she noticed. Then she added, “Well, it looks like you lost more than eight pounds!”

She made my day, but later she made my day again.

Before the second class, she came over to me and remarked that my legs were attracting a lot of attention. I asked her what she meant and she said that she was following me as I walked to the classroom and that she noticed a lot of people turning to notice my long legs. When she said that I blushed. (The accompanying photo reveals the revealing length of the hem of my dress yesterda.)

Speaking of long legs, I noticed a tall attractive female student file into the first class and pegged her as being six feet tall. I don’t recall her asking any questions during the Q&A portion of the class, but after the class was over, she asked, “Stana, how tall are you without heels?”

“Six two,” I replied.

“Me, too,” she said.

She was wearing flats, so I asked her if she wore heels. She said she does, but not currently because she just had knee surgery.

I was happy that here was a very tall girl, who was proud of her height and not afraid to wear heels. Good for her!

The questions asked of me were basically the same questions I have been asked at past outreaches with a few variations.

There was an amusing exchange with one student, who could not understand how I dressed in boy mode without people wondering about the telltale signs that indicated that I also dressed in girl mode. I did not understand what she was getting at, so she was more specific and said she was referring to the fact that since I get my nails done, don’t people wonder what’s with that. We all had a good laugh when I revealed that I use stick-on nails that come on and off in five minutes.

Another student asked me if I ever tried to stop crossdressing and I said that in the past, I was very guilty about crossdressing and tried to stop. I guess my Catholic upbringing had something to do with my guilt and I recalled the numerous times I planned to go to confession, confess my “sin,” and stop dressing. (I never had the nerve to make that confession.) I also mentioned how I had purged one time, but again took up crossdressing sooner or later.

Then I explained how as I grew older and a little wiser, I stopped feeling guilty when I realized that crossdressing was part of who I am and that I was going to be true to myself.

That was the last question of the day and I can’t think of a more appropriate way to end it.

Mahmoud Hemeida and Samy El Adl femulating in the 1994 Egyptian film Strawberry War.

Someday Funnies

Wearing Chickwish

Wayne Brady (in blue) as a drag queen on the Broadway stage in Kinky Boots (2015).