Modern Marriage

Wearing Johanna Ortiz.

A young "lady" participating in a recent beauty pageant.

Close Encounters with the Distaff Side

Dana and her "sister"

Has this happened to you?

You’re out en femme and a woman reacts negatively (or positively) because you look better than her.

Dana’s “Sister”

I was at a fund raising event (guest of a friend) of about 300 people in attendance and found myself not alone in the choice of my dress! I really love this dress and actually had to wait about 8 months before it went on sale and I could buy it. It is a very fun and flirty dress to wear and received several compliments on it from other ladies, which of course makes it even more fun and exciting!

So unlike a previous time where the girl was not liking the fact both of us had on a very similar dress, this woman was all smiles and we laughed, complimenting the other on how good we each looked (yes, she was just being nice to me, but it meant the world to me as I think she is beautiful). I told her we could just say sisters if anyone asked and she said YES, the story being set! To the right is a picture of us together!

Sindi’s Internet Intrigue

I am on a social site. I received a email from a member saying I should not be playing dress-up- nothing about how I looked. I read it and could not figure out why she wrote that. So I emailed back saying I guessed she did not want to be friends, LOL Turns out her husband had been looking at my page OMG - a jealous woman. And jealous of me???

Carollyn’s Makeup Counter Adventure

I went to Nordstrom at Bellevue Square (WA) to get a couple of Clinique items and to ask the cosmetologist for “smokey eye” assistance, since I was going to party that evening with Jamie Grae and her friends in Everett.

I was wearing the black outfit (photo below), but with boots not heels, since it was raining. The skirt was also longer. I rolled it for the party since everyone wears short skirts where we were going. I also wore my black leather jacket.

Carollyn

“Anyway, I walked in to Nordstrom and scanned the makeup area looking for Clinique. I finally found the counter and approached Michele to purchase pour concealer (which is a must under my makeup) and eye-liner. She was amazing and so helpful... but it was the two ladies at the other counter who went gaga over my appearance.

I told Michele I was ambi-gender and told me she had numerous CD customers and that she was not bothered. The ladies did not have any clients, so they walked over to see what Michele was doing for me. I had removed my jacket so my cleavage was apparent too. The first comment I heard was “Where did you get your nylons and boots?”

I was wearing patterned nylons. They asked me if I could model for them. So, I took off my boots and walked around the counter. I told them where I bought both items.

“Well, when Michele is done with you, please come over to our counter.”

About 15 minutes later, I paid Michele for the product and thanked her for her help with Carollyn the “smokey eye” and went to see the other two ladies.

“You are beautiful,” said one lady. The other said, “I could never look as pretty as you.”

And they were both lovely and classy in their appearance. Compliments continued to flow.

We talked for about 10 minute, mostly about where I buy my clothes, why I was in Washington, and about living in California. I don't think they knew I was CD, or at least they did not lead on to it. I did show them a couple of pictures of me that I had on my camera in different outfits and even gave them one of my “business” cards. The both gave me a hug and said to come back any time.

Obviously, I walked out of Nordstrom on Cloud 9.

Vicki's Workout

I was never out in a dress, but I was working out in a hotel workout room wearing a light blue leotard and what they called then "Toast" colored tights. I also had on a little elastic belt which was strictly to accessorize the leo and pull the outfit together. I had many different colored belts which mostly matched the different colored tights I would wear.  It really just gave it a cute look.

I began in the room by myself and two women came in together to workout. They struck up a conversation with me.

One said to both her friend and me, "I think I need to have a talk with my husband about letting me spend more on my workout clothes. It is depressing when a guy has cuter outfits than me."

Then the other woman said, "He also has better legs than you."

She then looked at me and said, "Do you like having girly legs?"

The last comment that they made after I finished and said goodbye, "You have a better ass than either of us also. Now that is depressing."

Stana's Tall Encounter

One of my best femulating moments was when I was browsing the racks at the local Nordstrom and a saleswoman nearby spoke up, "You're tall. I'm tall, too. How tall are you?"

I said, "Six foot two."

She replied, "I'm six foot one."

And she engaged me in a discussion about being a tall female. She asked me how I liked being tall when I was a girl. ("I loved it.") She admitted that she had some difficulties during her school years because of her height, but as an adult, she was happy with her height.

After we exchanged a few more words, I excused myself and walked on air for the rest of my day at the mall.

I used to worry that I could never pass because of my height. That day at the mall convinced me otherwise.

Caveat Emptor: This post is a variation of a previously post published.

Wearing Guy Laroche. (Source: Vogue Patterns)

Old school womanless beauty pageant, circa 1960.

I haven't a thing to wear!

The weather forecast for Sunday is "A chance of rain. Partly sunny, with a high near 59. Chance of precipitation is 30%."

I like the temperature, but I could do without the precipitation as I try to plan what to wear when I hob knob with our Governor and other politicians at GLAD's annual "Justice for All" reception in Hartford.

"I haven't a thing to wear!"

That's not true. I have plenty of outfits to choose from. I am just conflicted about which one to wear.

So, what does a girl wear to a Sunday afternoon reception with the Governor?

I think "Sunday afternoon" is the key. I should wear something similar to what my mother wore when she went to church on Sunday sans her usual white gloves and chapeau.

Wearing Boston Proper.

 George Logan and Patrick Fyffe femulating Dr. Evadne Hinge and Dame Hilda Bracket.

Proenza Schouler is Tipping the Point

By Hyunjee Lee, from New York Magazine's The Cut.

"Arriving in stores today (actually yesterday–Stana), Proenza Schouler’s pre-fall 2017 collection is luxurious but casual with bold colors and patterns. Three transgender models star in a lookbook shot by photographer Ethan James Green, a former model who starred in Calvin Klein’s sexting ad campaign in 2015: Stav Strashko, Marcs Marcus and Torraine Futurum (above).

"They and two other models (Michelle Gutknecht and Emm Arruda) wear sequins and stripes, pleated leather, and woven platform sandals, giving each look a collaged quality, as the different cuts are layered."

Read the rest of the story here.

FYI, Proenza Schouler is a New York based womenswear and accessories brand.

Wearing Philosophy top and A.L.C. skirt from Intermix.

Marcs Marcus, male womenswear model

Going to the Prom

It is prom season, a time when many a young femulator's heart is all a flutter thinking about the pretty prom gowns he won't be able to wear to his high school's spring formal.

I wore a white tux to my senior prom and that was probably a good thing because back then, I was about 40 pounds heavier than I am now. Squeezing into a prom gown would not have been a pretty sight, but I am sure my mother would have sewn me something dreamy to wear and would have had me fitted with the proper foundation garments so that I would be voluptuous in her creation. Of course, it did not happen, but I dreamed about it nonetheless.

Times have changed. As Ray Davies once sang, "Boys will be girls and girls will be boys" and today, at some of the more progressive schools in our nation, girls do wear tuxedos to proms and boys do wear gowns like today's Femulator, Rey Silva (see below).

Lucky kids!

Wearing Dannijo Odion necklace, Cushnie Et Ochs bodysuit and Brandon Maxwell pants.

Raven Ross and Rey Silva are going to the prom in drag to celebrate Silva's passion for pop fashion icons and bring awareness about the fears that LGBT high school students often feel.

Venue-Wear

Last year's Hamvention-wear

I will be attending Hamvention in a few weeks – presenting as a woman for the eighth consecutive Hamvention.

The big difference this year is a change of venue. Instead of one huge convention hall, this year's event will take place at an Ohio county fairgrounds in a half dozen separate buildings and an unenumerated number of tents.

In the past, I would dress like a professional woman to staff a booth, visit other booths and to attend workshops/presentations all in one big convention hall. So I usually wore a dress and high heel pumps (and carried along a pair of flats just in case).

This year, in order to visit other booths and attend workshops and presentations, I will have to go outdoors to get from one building to another and heels are not the best footwear for negotiating fairgrounds terrain. Also, I might feel a little out of place wearing a dress and heels to staff a booth in a building where livestock may have hung out the previous weekend.

So I am planning my wardrobe accordingly. I will still wear a dress and heels to our annual Friday night dinner, but my daywear will be more casual than in the past.

Hamvention wear? Thali romper and Elizabeth and James bag. 

Crossplayer AleksandrFairyartos femulates Lady Gaga.

My Easter Outfit

I did not plan to post anything today (never on a Sunday), but yesterday's post attracted some attention, so I want to have closure concerning what I started yesterday.

We are not visiting my in-laws today. Most are dead. The ones who are still alive and kicking have never invited us to their homes to celebrate anything. So we are staying home and having a Polish dinner with my sister and my daughter.

Yesterday, I wrote, "I think I should dress en femme this upcoming Easter Sunday. I'm thinking of a real girly pastel dress with matching purse and heels, etc., etc. Then go visit my in-laws."

I think a lot of things, but before I carry out those thoughts, I usually consider them carefully before I do anything. Regarding yesterday's thoughts, I would never put my wife in such a potentially embarrassing situation.

I would absolutely love to do it and I would not be embarrassed in the least, but unless my wife said, "Why don't you dress pretty for Easter," I would never do it.

Anyway, Happy Easter, en femme or otherwise!

Wearing Haus of Topper earrings, Self Portrait dress and Aquazzura sandals.

Alex Newell getting pretty in a 2013 episode of television's Glee.

Pink Elephant in the Room

All of my in-laws are aware that I crossdress. I won't explain how they know, but I assure you that they know. (Also, most of them don't know that I know that they know.)

When I visit my in-laws, I feel like I am the elephant in the room because no one will say anything to me about my crossdressing, although I know that they speak about it behind my back.

I think I should dress en femme this upcoming Easter Sunday. I'm thinking of a real girly pastel dress with matching purse and heels, etc., etc. Then go visit my in-laws.

I wonder if they would mention my crossdressing then?

Anyway, Happy Holidays en femme or not!

Wearing LOVER.

Five changes of underwear.

Just for Fun

I femulate because I am a male woman. But there is a growing contingent of born-males who femulate just for fun (or so they say). I am referring to the male-to-female crossplayers (crossdressing cosplayers) and their sisters, the brolitas (boy lolitas).

"Cosplay, a contraction of the words costume play, is a performance art in which participants called cosplayers wear costumes and fashion accessories to represent a specific character" from "manga and anime, comic books and cartoons, video games, and live-action films and television series." (source: Wikipedia)

Crossplay is crossdressing cosplay. Most crossplay is of the female-to-male variety, however, more and more guys are getting into the act: male-to-female crossplaying.

Meanwhile, "Lolita is a fashion subculture originating in Japan that is based on Victorian and Edwardian clothing." (source: Wikipedia)

Brolitas are males, who dress like lolitas, that is, they crossdress wearing extremely feminine Victorian/Edwardian/Gothic clothing. Some brolitas are male-to-female crossplayers.

I don't know what to make of brolitas and male-to-female crossplayers. Some of their femulations look perfect. Having never met one in person, I don't know if their voices and mannerisms match what they are wearing, but I imagine some do and some don't.

I question if it is really just for fun?

My guess is that like the contestants in womanless beauty pageants and womanless fashion shows, there are a few participants who are not civilians. Rather, they are trans-something and crossplaying/brolitaing is a safe way to express their feminine side without outing themselves.

I wish I had that option when I was younger!

Male-to-Female Crossplayers of Note:

Brolitas Who Impress:

Wearing Metrostyle.

Dylan Jenkins (right) femulates on British television's Hollyoaks (2015).