Womanmaker

By Alison, Femulate Guest Columnist

Back in the day, when I started exploring lingerie pictures in catalogs and magazine ads, I used to find reading some of the descriptions almost as interesting as the pics themselves. I'm sure that you have a special place in your heart for phrases like "lift and separate" or for the wonders of fabrics like Dupont Antron3.

I recently found this old Warner's ad on Tumblr. The pic isnt too special, but the words have got to be the most sensuous of any bra ad I've ever read. I hope that whoever came up with this ad copy got at least a week or two extra vacation time for their trouble.

By the way, I plan to attend First Event in a few weeks? I will be there Thursday, Friday, and Saturday. Just look for the woman with the ham radio callsign on her name tag. I'll also have my HT in my purse.

Stana's Two Cents

My favorite bra ad phrases were "cross your heart" and "I dreamed I did something (like crossdressing) in my Maidenform bra." While on the subject, you have to wonder if the Warner's Womanmaker ad was aimed at crossdressers, as well as women. Womanmaker!!! Like I always say, "Feel like a woman. Wear a bra!"

Wearing Boston Proper.

Femulating in Pageant: The Musical.

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Katy Perry

Paolo Ballesteros femulates Katy Perry.

Hiding the Evidence

Femulators learn how to hide evidence early in their femulating lives.

Leftover makeup is a dead giveaway. After I was quizzed once as to why my lips were so red after I transitioned from girl to boy, I became religious about removing my warpaint using makeup remover creams and wipes to do the job.

No matter how thorough I am removing makeup, leftover eye makeup usually hides under my lower lid. Fifteen minutes or so after removal, just when I think it is safe to come out and play boy, a black glob of goo will appear around my tear ducts to give me away as a gurl. So I constantly check myself out in the mirror (don't say what you're thinking!) for the next hour or so to remove any telltale eye makeup goo.

      

Speaking of makeup, Manny Mua, the pretty gurl who was the face of this blog on Monday is now the first male spokesperson for Maybelline cosmetics. You can read about Maybelline's Manny Mua here. 

Stana’s Makeup Tip of the Day!

I stash baby wipes all around the house for fast clean-ups (we have cats and dogs and spill-prone humans). I also use baby wipes to remove makeup. I figure if they are safe to use on the delicate skin of a baby, they are safe enough to use on my face. No matter what I use, I always slather on a moisturizer right after removing my makeup to avoid drying out my skin.

Taylor Swift

Womanless beauty pageant contestant Number 7 femulates Taylor Swift.

The Invisible Woman

By Sally Stone, Femulate Guest Blogger

I turn heads. People talk about me. My presence garners lots of attention. I love it, so why would I want to be invisible? When I was a fledgling T-Girl though, I absolutely hated attention, because it meant I was being clocked, that I wasn't invisible, that I didn't pass.

I have come a long way since those early days, however, and thankfully I no longer cling to the troublesome notion of having to pass. Okay, I am not naive. I do realize that many transwomen need to pass because if they don't it might affect a relationship or their ability to find work and in some cases, it might even cause them physical harm. It is so sad that in today's society transwomen are actual murdered because they failed to live up to someone else's standard of what a woman needs to look like. Yes, the bar is often unreasonably high for transwomen, where beauty standards are concerned, so I don't discount anyone's need to pass, but for me, it is no longer a concept I'm going to let hold me back.

In fact, it wasn't until I let go of the need to pass that I found true freedom of expression, freedom to be myself without being concerned about what others were thinking. And something else happened, something quite surprising. I discovered that without carrying the burden of needing to pass, that my feminine personality flowed more freely and more easily. By not trying so hard to blend in, I was actually blending in better than ever.

Again, I realize that my view on the subject of passing may not sit well with everyone, but as a part-time woman, it has been quite effective for me. Thinking back on it, I find myself surprised by how negatively passing was impacting my self-esteem. I, like so many other transwomen, and cis women for that matter, had become a slave to our society's beauty myth. I bought into the idea that to truly become the woman I wanted to be, I needed to ascribe to the social standards of feminine beauty.

When I looked in the mirror and didn't see a fashion model staring back at me, it kept making me think there may not have been a woman inside of me after all. What a sad thought, that my self-worth would be based on some artificial concept of feminine beauty. I can only believe that other women struggle with self-esteem for the same reason.

When I finally recognized that I was trying to live up to someone else's beauty standard instead of my own, it was an important distinction that contributed to my liberation. After all, passing is really all about measuring up to someone else's standard. If you just refuse to accept that arbitrary standard, then you free yourself of that need to pass Ultimately, the only person you must satisfy anyway, is yourself.

Today, when I go out into the world as a woman, I'm self-confident and I'm fulfilled, and it's all because I've stopped trying to measure myself against an aesthetic appearance standard that is not achievable for all but a few. Instead, I focus on the attributes I've been given. Those, coupled with my internal beauty make me all the woman I need to be. And not so surprisingly, when I feel beautiful and confident those around me recognize it. Oh, why would I ever want to be invisible?

Wearing Bebe.

Leslie Marlowe gets femulated in the 1967 film She-Man.

Conversion Therapy: Snake Oil

Have you had past experiences with efforts by a medical or mental health professional to try to change your sexual orientation or gender identity? You might have heard these practices alternatively referred to as conversion therapy, reparative therapy or gender identity/sexual orientation change efforts.

Connecticut Trans Advocacy Coalition is a member of ctEquality which is a coalition of likeminded organizations fighting for equality and justice for LGBTQ people in Connecticut and our goal for the coming legislative session is to pass legislation banning conversion therapy for children under the age of 18. We're looking to hear from you.

You can help us collect stories from anyone who has undergone this kind of treatment, been referred to a provider for this treatment, or been told as a parent to take their child for this kind of treatment. We are especially interested in hearing from people who have had these kinds of experiences before turning age 18 or any parents who have had related experiences.

If you're willing, you can share an overview of your story. Someone from ctEquality will follow-up with you to connect and learn more about your experience. Also please share this with your friends on social media.

Please visit this website to share your story.

Wearing Madeleine.

Akihiro Miwa

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Manny Mua

Wearing Veronica Beard.

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Transition of the Calendar

Wearing Eloquii.

Stan becomes a woman on television's American Dad (2015).

Still in the Cards

As a young child, I had many dreams that in retrospect, indicated to me that I had at least one previous life and that I was a woman in that life. 

Being a more scientific person and not so much a spiritual person, believing that I had past lives was  a leap of faith. But it all added up considering my gender issues in my current life as a “man.”

As I wrote yesterday, I never had an opportunity to take my relative up on her kind offers to read tarot cards for me gratis. Actually, I avoided the opportunities because I thought that a reading would reveal things that might be embarrassing, specifically transgender things even though my relative was well aware of my trans issues.

My reading on Tuesday affirmed my guess about what the reading would reveal, that I was a woman in my past lives and as a result, transgender in my present life!

My wife and sister were sitting beside me during the reading and they just shook their heads in agreement with what the cards revealed.

You may or may not believe in past lives, tarot cards, etc., but I have seen how accurate my relative’s readings of other people have been and now I have seen it first hand as it relates to me. I definitely think there is something to it.

And I just want to clarify something regarding yesterday’s post. The description of what the Male-Female card signified was not the reader's interpretation the card manipulated to fit what she already knew about me. Rather, as quoted in yesterday’s post, it was the printed word right out of the book that accompanied the tarot cards!

Freakin’ spooky!

Wearing 3.1 Phillip Lim blouse.

Professional femulator Vickie Lynn in the 1954 film Varietease.
(See Vickie perform here.)

In the Cards

One of my relatives reads tarot cards. She is very proficient and makes a very good living at it.

I have never had an opportunity to take her up on her kind offers to read my cards gratis… until yesterday. I have never had my cards read by anyone, so it was all new to me.

My relative was using a past lives deck of tarot cards, so her reading would be related to my past lives. She knows that I have trans issues, yet she was shocked that the first card I drew out of the tarot deck was the Male-Female card.

According to the book that accompanies the deck of cards she was using, the Male-Female card “signifies that you’ve lived most of your lives as a different gender, than the one you embody in this life. For example, you may now be living as a female, while in most of your previous lifetimes, you were a male.

“In such cases, gender confusion and even health issues are often related to this change of gender over lifetimes. Because for most of your lifetimes you lived as the other sex, you may not feel comfortable in your own skin. If this is your first lifetime as a woman, you may develop gynecological issues or even experience infertility. If this is your first lifetime as a man, you may not relate to traditional masculine roles.

“This card asks you to have compassion for yourself, and trust that our soul is doing the best it can. Remember that your soul is the result of all of your past experiences.”

Wow!

Wearing Intermix.

Walton Coggins femulates in television's Son of Anarchy.

Got T-Dar?

Do you have T-Dar?

I do and if you are reading this blog, you probably have T-Dar, too.

T-Dar, short for trans-radar, is the ability to detect a trans-person when they are presenting in their non-birth gender. For example, you see a tall woman walking through the mall. Suddenly, your T-Dar kicks in and you begin looking for clues that the woman is actually a natal male presenting as a female.

No matter how good you think your T-Dar may be, you seldom have an opportunity to determine whether your T-Dar works correctly or not.

You can confront a suspected trans-person, but that can be disastrous, especially if you are wrong. Recently, I read about a trans-woman who encountered two tall women while shopping. Her T-Dar told her that the two women were trans and she confronted them by introducing herself as trans and saying something to the effect, "You're trans, too, aren't you?"

The two women reacted as if the trans-woman had just gotten off a spaceship from Uranus. They had no idea what she was talking about and when it became apparent to the trans-woman that she had erred, she wished that she was on Uranus.

And even if your T-Dar is correct confronting a suspected trans-person can be a sensitive matter.

Last time I attended First Event, I arrived at the hotel in boy mode and took the elevator to the floor where I could register for the event. The elevator stopped before reaching my destination and a trans-woman got on. I was 101% positive that she was trans and without thinking, I asked her if she was enjoying First Event.

She was taken aback by my query and seemed very uncomfortable. I immediately realized the error of my ways and explained to her that I was trans too, but having just arrived at the hotel, had not changed into girl mode yet. She seemed a little relieved, but I learned a lesson and would think twice before doing that again.

So it is probably best that using your T-Dar be a solitary thing. Keep your T-Dar findings to yourself unless, of course, you write a trans-blog, then you can publicize your T-Dar results. ("Yesterday, I saw a trans-woman in ladies' shoes at Macy's.")

I believe that most trans-people have T-Dar. It almost comes naturally because trans-people look for affirmation that there are other trans-people out there. What better way to affirm that then to actually see another trans-person in person? Seeking that affirmation, trans-people check out potential suspects wherever they go.

Even when my T-Dar determines that the six-foot woman walking through the mall is, in fact, a genetic female, it provides a different kind of affirmation. It affirms that there are genuine tall women out there and as a six-foot-plus trans-woman, it gives me encouragement to go out en femme and join the other tall women out there because I am not alone.

(This is a re-gifted post!)

Wearing Fashion-to-Figure.

Jean-Paul Bongo Alexandre Remy femulating in the
1986 French Canadian film The Decline of the American Empire.

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