Lauren's Favorite Photos (of Lauren!)

Hi Stana,

Hands-down, this is my favorites. It was our wedding day and to be the bride was a dream come true!

Thanks,

Lauren


Calling all girls! My open invitation to post your favorite photo along with the story behind it and the reason it is your favorite photo still stands, so don't be shy, send me your fave foto. ― Stana

Wearing Alexia Admor

Wearing their prom dresses in a womanless beauty pageant

Spring Cleaning

Satellite view of my repurposed tackle box

Before my recent days out as a woman, I fumbled through my makeup box trying to find stuff. My makeup box is actually a large fishing tackle box that I bought at Walmart years ago and it is so full of stuff that it is difficult to close. Such is the fate of an Avon representative who samples nearly every new makeup product that Avon introduces!

It was time to do some spring cleaning. I emptied the box and vacuumed out all the dust and makeup crumbs cluttering the box.

Next, I sorted through every item in the box and disposed of old makeup, especially old eye makeup which is a potential bacteria breeding ground. I also threw out makeup in colors I will never use (like dark purple lipstick) and makeup I used once, did not like and never used again.

I organized the remainder and packed it into the box, which is now much lighter and will require less fumbling to find what I need.

And with that I leave you with some excellent makeup tips from Elle via Good Housekeeping: 5 Makeup Mistakes That Make You Look Older (and the easy ways to avoid them).

Wearing Versace

Cathy Lane AKA Peter Lappin of Male Pattern Boldness fame

Got Bags?

I like bags almost as much as I like shoes, but in the recent past, I obtained bags that I do not like ― two bags, one under each eye! 

I have tried different “solutions” to get rid of my bags, but the only thing that worked is Photoshop… until now.

Good Housekeeping regularly sends me e-mail ads and one of their recent ads was an offer to try out Hydrolyze 90, a product that eliminates dark circles, wrinkles and bags around your eyes. The trial offer cost a mere $1.98, so how could I resist?

Over two weeks ago, I received my trial offer. Included were two tubs of Hydrolyze Under Eye Treatment, 30 packets of Instant Effect 90 Second Wrinkle Reducer and a bottle of Hydroxatone Age-Defying Toner. 

I started using the Hydrolyze Under Eye Treatment immediately applying a dab under each eye in the morning and evening. After 18 days, I noticed that the wrinkles around my eyes are less noticeable, but I did not see any difference in the bags under my eyes. Truth be told, since I started using the product, I never missed a morning application, but I have missed many evening applications, so the results might be better by now if I remembered to apply the cream every night before going to bed.

When I was doing my makeup before going out two weeks ago, I decided to try the Instant Effect 90 Second Wrinkle Reducer. I opened a packet, squeezed the product onto my fingertip, swept the product under each eye and did not move a facial muscle for 90 seconds. Immediately, I could feel my skin tighten under the product and when I looked in the mirror, I was shocked. My bags were gone! I looked 20 years younger! I was in love with the product.

Then I applied liquid foundation. The liquid loosened the tightness and my bags were back. I did not reapply the product over the foundation because I feared that it would create a mess that would take time to fix and time was not on my side. My guess is that if I had applied a powder foundation over the product it would have held up.

Reading online reviews of the product, I noted that the product is only effective for 4 to 6 hours. So in my case, after half a day I would have to remove the foundation and the product, then reapply the product and the foundation if I wanted to be bagless all day long. So it is not an ideal product for a day at the office, but would be perfect for a half day out as a woman or a night out with the girls or a photoshoot.

On the other hand, the long term effect of using the product might do more bad than good according to a review on Paula’s Choice. So buyer beware.

Personally, I am going to keep the product around and use it for special occasions.

Wearing JB by Julie Brown

Actor Chris Tanner in the 2014 film The Gays.

Got Radio?

Stana in Dayton, May 2013

One week from today, I will be on a 725-mile roadtrip to southwest Ohio to attend the annual Hamvention, the biggest ham radio convention north of the South Pole. I have attended Hamvention about 27 times over the last 37 years, the last five times as a woman as I will next week.

Attending Hamvention, I have met about a dozen other trans hams over the years who attended in boy mode. Through this blog, they knew where to find me and we connected.

If you plan to attend Hamvention this year, I hope you will stop by the booths I will be staffing on and off Friday and Saturday: booths numbered 451-454 ― just down the aisle from the huge ARRL exhibit.

Wearing Jacquemus

Femulator, circa 1970

Beauty and Styling Tips! (Part 2)

By Jamie B. 

www.TGCDStyleToronto.com 

Body and Styling

Here are some important tips regarding body and styling.

• The walk is everything. Fact is, men walk more rigid than women. Practice walking in high heels before you go out. In fact, practice a few nights before you go out. It could take a few tries before you get the walk right. The key is to do a slight sway of your hips with every step you take. If you are walking awkward after a few tries, maybe the heel is too high. Spike heels can be a challenge, so avoid them if you are prone to being a bit clumsy like myself. 2- to 3-inch heels are comfortable to flaunt your girly self in! Don't go overboard and risk looking awkward.

• Like the Little Black Dress, the classic black pump is always in style. Invest in a pair of real leather ones. Fake leather looks... well, fake. 

• Buy a stretchy belt in black and one in beige/nude. These are inexpensive and really can complete your outfit. It also creates a more cinched waist, which is vital to looking and feeling girly. 

• Invest in some bottom-enhancing underwear. They really make a difference with dresses and skirts. Those extra few millimeters really give a nice curve to the derriere. Walmart.com carries them online for under $11.

• Make sure your manicure is always chip-free and shiny. Buy a clear top coat and apply as needed to prevent chips and a dull look. A fresh manicure every week is ideal. Make sure your cuticles are trimmed prior to nail polish. 

• Avoid gaudy necklaces that look too bulky or cheaply made. A classic pearl necklace or a few layers long necklaces always look polished. Avoid bulky jewelry in general. 

• When adjusting your cleavage, apply a matte brown eyeshadow (from your neutral eyeshadow palette) to the tops of your pecs to create the illusion of rounder, fuller breasts. Let the natural shadow if your cleavage guide you where to apply. They should look like back-to-back “C” shapes. 

I hope these tips and techniques have been educational and enlightening. Please don't hesitate to ask me any questions by e-mailing me at TGCDStyleToronto@gmail.com. My goal is to make every crossdresser and transgender woman feel like they intend to feel, feminine!

Wearing Ann Taylor

Contestant in Colombian womanless beauty pageant

Beauty and Styling Tips!

By Jamie B. 

www.TGCDStyleToronto.com 

When I began doing makeup over 10 years ago, I never imagined I'd be specializing in the transgender and crossdressing communities. I am grateful for all the classy ladies I've met along my way. I continue to meet loveliness every time I meet a client. I have much respect for those living their truth ― no matter who it is. So keep being your authentic self. It's a delicate process, coming into your own, that shouldn't be rushed. You set the pace.

If you are reading this, chances are, wherever you are in your own journey, you are definitely ready for some beauty and styling tips! So, let's get started.

What makes femulation so elusive at times is the fact that many aren't prepped or are only partially prim.

As you know, being a passable woman takes some work, and more for others. It is more than a pair of great legs or putting on a wig. The wig needs styling. The legs need to be smooth and with silky stockings. It's more than red lipstick. It's a carefully lined mouth, made to appear fuller.

Being a woman is also about her poise, her walk, her scent, and general mannerisms that make her undoubtedly femme. All these elements all need to work together like a femme factory. With that said, we are going to get into the nitty-gritty about what exactly is needed and how you should go about achieving the femulation you are dreaming of. Then, all else is just practice!

Hair and Makeup

Nothing screams femme like hair and makeup. Let's start there. Here are some pointers I share with my clients.

• Your makeup should never match your clothes, i.e., blue eyeshadow with a blue blouse or yellow eyeliner with yellow dress. Instead, choose neutral makeup colors, and have fun with color when it comes to your clothing. The reason being, if you want to be passable and tasteful, less is more. If you want a pop of color, save it for your lips!

• Grab a neutral eyeshadow palette. This is a staple in your makeup bag. Neutral eyeshadow colors are perfect for shaping the eye without looking fake or obnoxious. It is perfect for smoky eyes or just classic, clean makeup. I always apply neutrals to the eyes of transgender and crossdressing clients and again, save the color for their lips. Smashbox Exposure is a nice matte/shimmer palette. It comes with a mini mascara and doubled-ended brush. One side is for applying eyeshadow, and the other for blending.

• Pick one feature and stick to it. Lips or Eyes. Play up only one feature at a time as your focal point. Is it your eyes you want to enhance with dark eyeshadow and liner? Then keep lips a soft pink or rose. If you prefer a bright pink or red pout, go easy on the eye makeup. Black mascara or some false lashes along with some medium brown matte eyeshadow in the crease is all you need to make the focal point your lips.

• CoverFX Total Cover Cream Foundation is your Holy Grail foundation. It is an emollient-based product, so it looks like real skin and covers stubborn beard shadow. It doubles as a concealer as well, due to the full coverage and creamy texture. It is vegan, cruelty-free and originally made in a prominent Canadian hospital specifically for burn victims. No need for a foundation brush with this one ― a cosmetic wedge is all you need on well-moisturized skin. It is SPF30, fragrance-free, paraben-free and talc-free. 

• Get on the BeautyBlender bandwagon! This teardrop shaped sponge is bouncy, dense, used when damp, and is used to blend out any harsh lines. A must-have for a clean, professional makeup look. Clean it weekly with baby shampoo. 

• Watch out for too much blush. This can look very clownish/exaggerated. Remember, we want to look feminine and pretty, not drag. Instead, use a neutral shade and blend with a damp BeautyBlender. Simply smile, and apply to the “apples” (nude/pink for light to medium tones and nude/rose for darker tones)

• Invest in a nice wig (or two). It is nice to have the option to switch wigs based on your mood or look. Synthetic is less expensive than human hair, but requires more maintenance to prevent knots and dreads. Lace front gives the appearance of a natural hairline, which also costs more. Capless wigs are the most common type and less expensive than lace front.

• Oil of Morocco Dry Styling Argan Oil is a “wigsaver,” as I call it. Spray it on the ends of your synthetic wig and gently brush out any tangles before they turn into knots and eventually dreads... Can be used on human hair wigs as well. Hold the wig as a ponytail in your fist as you brush from bottom to top being careful not to rip out any chunks of hair. 

• Flat wig? Use a bit of Batiste Dry Shampoo! It is essentially a micro-fine powder, which gives hair the texture and volume boost it needs. Then fluff hair with fingers. Make sure to get the brown-tinted version for darker wigs. 

• When covering your beard shadow, apply foundation in a stippling motion, set with a setting powder, and apply more foundation, and set again. This layering technique is popular for building coverage and the CoverFx foundation won't look heavy.

• Parfum or Eau De Toilette? Parfum costs more, usually has less quantity, but lasts much longer. Spray only 2-3 sprays in the air and walk into it. This way, you have a nice scent, but not an overwhelmingly strong aura.

• Purchase a nice highlighter powder like Stila All Over Shimmer Powder in Kitten. Use it on the brow bone, bridge of nose, upper lip “cupid's bow,” cheekbones and cleavage. This will illuminate your features by looking smooth and pretty, which is very girly.

Part 2 of Jamie’s Beauty and Styling Tips! will appear here tomorrow, so you all come back now, here.

Wearing Ann Taylor

Comparing notes at the drag ball

Marlena's Favorite Photo (of Marlena!)

I have very few because very few people have ever met "Marlena." This was taken by Janna Patterson, the proprietress of JannasStudio in Forest Park, IL. She can provide all the clothes and accessories needed for a wonderful afternoon of adventure and escape; by appointment only.

Calling all girls! My open invitation to post your favorite photo along with the story behind it and the reason it is your favorite photo still stands, so don't be shy, send me your fave foto. ― Stana

Wearing Lulu

Stan Munro, Australian professional femulator

Carmen's Favorite Photos (of Carmen!)

Dear Stana,

I would like to answer your invitation.

One year ago, I sent you a paper about a small group of "femulators" including me, visiting Chenonceaux Castle.

One week ago, Hommefleur association, had its annual assembly near Orléans, in Chicamour Castle. During the two days, we had discussions, dinners, ball. We also visited Chamerolles Castle dedicated to the perfume history. It was a great event for all of us. It was also the first time I met Zoe, who also sent you a photo some months ago.

I sent you two photos of Chamerolles: one of the group and one of me in one of the room showing all sorts of perfume flasks.

Once again, I thank you for the beautiful job you are performing.

Best regards,

Carmen

Calling all girls! My open invitation to post your favorite photo along with the story behind it and the reason it is your favorite photo still stands, so don't be shy, send me your fave foto. ― Stana

Wearing Donna Morgan

Actor Stanley Baxter on UK television's Stanley Baxter's Christmas Box in 1976

Bruce

Like my sister Meg, I did not watch the Bruce Jenner interview. And I have no plans to watch it anytime soon (if ever).

It is nothing against Ms. Jenner or her coming out. In fact, I congratulate her and anyone else who comes out.

But after trying to sort out my womanhood for over 50 years, I have heard, seen and read it all before and do not want to spend any time hearing, seeing and reading it all over again.

It is the same way I feel about reality television shows. I don’t want to waste whatever time I have left on this planet watching other people live their lives; I have my own life to live.

And so it goes.

Wearing 3x1 

Actor Brian Charles Rooney on the New York City stage in Bedbugs!!!  

Morning Person

Saturday, I attended the Transgender Lives Conference at the UConn Health Center in Farmington. Continuing from yesterday's post, this is the conclusion of my story.

After my police escort, I found the conference and picked up the registration and presenter packages. I did not recognize anyone except a few people who were as busy as could be running the conference, so I did not bother them, got a cup of coffee and looked over the program trying to decide what presentation to attend before mine at 10:45 AM.

A few people I encountered said “Hello,” but they were passing like ships in the night hellos, rather than long time, no see hellos. 

And then a male name-tagged “Tom” stopped and engaged me in conversation. She had attended my old support group’s meetings and remembered me, but I did not remember her especially since I would have only seen her en femme in the past. Nevertheless, we had an pleasant chat.

I visited the various booths that were set up for the conference, talked to the folks staffing those booths, picked up some literature and then went to auditorium for the “welcoming remarks.” 

The person who was supposed to welcome us was a no-show, so my friend Diana, who was running the conference, welcomed us. One memorable moment during the welcome was when a woman seated in the row behind me tapped me on the shoulder and remarked how much she "loved" my outfit. (During the conference, I received a number of kudos regarding my outfit.)

I decided to attend a workshop that sounded interesting on paper, but was not interesting to me in person. The person presenting the workshop spoke well, seemed to know the subject matter, but I did not get it. Maybe it was me, I dunno. Anyway, I will not mention the title of the workshop or the presenter’s name to protect the innocent.

Jan and I were up next. Our presentation “Crossdressing in the Real World” was basically a show and tell. We showed photos of us out and about, explained what we were doing in each photo and hoped that it would inspire the attendees to get out of the closet and go out and about, too.

I felt that I was not very organized and winged it. Despite what I felt, a number of people said they enjoyed the presentation (by the way, there were about a dozen in attendance). However, one person (Allison) e-mailed me some feedback and suggestions for improvement including, "Tell them what you're going to tell them, tell them, and tell them what you told them."

Self-criticisms: at the beginning of the workshop, tell the attendees to break in any time with questions. Also, let the attendees introduce themselves and say why they are attending the workshop.

Allison was happy to meet me in person. I won’t go into details, but I helped her get out of the closet. She told me she was having lunch with an old support group friend, Willa, who I had not seen in about 15 years, so I invited myself to join them for lunch.

Box lunches were included and all the attendees met up together for lunch in the cafeteria. Only then did I realize how many people were in attendance – over 150!

I enjoyed chatting with Willa over lunch (I chatted more than I ate) and met some other girls including Betty and Francesca. I also ran into other old friends: Dallas, Janis, Karen, Moonhawk and Tony.

I left after lunch because my wife was having a bad day with her MS. So I missed the afternoon presentations and Dallas Denny’s keynote address, but I had a very good half-day and look forward to another outing real soon now.

Wearing Dior (dress and shoes, left) and Nina Ricci (dress and shoes, right)

Actor Sid Silvers in the 1935 film Broadway Melody of 1936