Cursed

Back on March 27, Monica wrote here, “I am trying to write a blog/essay on how being transgender is a gift and not a curse… what do you see as the gift(s) of being transgender? What unique perspective and irreplaceable view of life do we have?”

At the time, I had nothing to say, so Monica asked me directly, “I would love to hear your take on what the gifts of being trans-gendered are (and the curse).”

Personally, I think I can summarize it this way.

Being transgender is a curse living part-time male and part-time female, as I do.

Being transgender would be a gift if I lived full-time as a female.

Living part-time involves living a lie in many ways and for me, living a lie is very stressful and a heavy burden on my psyche.

Living full-time would relieve me of those "part-time burdens." However, living full-time would weigh me down with new burdens, that is, the burdens of living as a woman in society today... burdens that I would gladly embrace because that is the way it's supposed to be.

Wearing Brahmin.

Actor Ben Porter in the 2004 British film School of Seduction.

Kaitlynn’s Favorite Photos (of Kaitlynn!)

Dear Stana,

I've been following your blog for a little while (after accidentally stumbling across it a few months ago) and have been enjoying your posts so far. I figured if you find them acceptable, that I would try my hand at sending in my submission for your favorite photo series.

The first is me from a couple of years ago, back in 2013, while the second one was just taken last month. 

Looking back on them, the first used to be my favorite because I think at the time I believed everything had finally come together enough for me to be comfortable with and feel truly myself, the hair, the makeup, everything.

Have you ever had a brief period of time that you've later looked back on and realized just how much things ― and yourself have changed? Oh, how things have changed... mostly me, over the past two years. I've since shed the wig, gotten better at makeup, become more confident and grown like every other girl out there and I like to think I'm now able to call myself a young woman. 

Long story short, those two are my favorites because for me they symbolize where I've come from and where I am now as I look into the future.

Thanks!

Regards,

Kaitlynn

My open invitation to post your favorite photo along with the story behind it and the reason it is your favorite photo still stands, so don't be shy, send me your fave foto. ― Stana

 

 

 

Wearing Anthropologie.

 

 

 

Not your father’s Easter outfit.

Christina Marie’s Favorite Photos (of Christina Marie!)

Hi Stana,

A while back I found your blog through a friend. I am so glad that she did, too. It has become such a great way to relax and I so enjoy reading about your adventures, especially when you post things about tall women.

Since you asked us to share one of our favorite photos with your audience, I couldn’t resist, but send one. But which one? Just like everyone else, it was a chore. One from when I was young or something more recent. That sure is a lot with 25+ years femulating. It didn’t take long.

Most of the time, I went out dressed by myself. My wife and kids knew I dressed, but were afraid of the consequences if I was caught femulating while I was serving in the military. Soon as I retired, I was femulating almost 24/7.

I had decided to go to the park and then get something to eat at a restaurant one Sunday afternoon. My wife and kids loved the sound of it and wanted to go. I asked if they wanted me to change, but they were ok with me femulating during the day with them. Our first stop was at a nice little park. It was a wonderful day in May and you couldn’t have asked for a better one. After a nice walk around the park, we all took pictures together and then I took some solo ones.

We were so hungry and worn out we headed off to the restaurant to eat. I have eaten there a lot, so they knew who I was. Lunch was good as was the company. Did I mention there were more pictures? Like that wouldn’t have happened.

It was a hard tossup between the day out with my wife and kids or hanging out with my parents and siblings as the woman I love to be. Not to worry though because we have a family reunion coming up and they can’t wait for their sister to show up!

Take care everyone and happy Femulating!!!!

Christina Marie

My open invitation to post your favorite photo along with the story behind it and the reason it is your favorite photo still stands, so don't be shy, send me your fave foto. ― Stana

 

 

 

Wearing Brahmin.

 

 

 

Sira Soda, professional Madonna femulator.

Thirteen

Jan regularly sends e-mails with links to recent T things appearing on the Internet. One was a link to a website that analyzes your photo to determine how masculine and feminine you look and how old you are.

I've seen similar web sites in the past, but this was a new one for me, so I decided to check it out.

First, I uploaded the photo that is at the top right left corner of this blog (glasses and all) and I was pleased with the results: 5% masculine, 95% feminine and 53 years old!

Next, I uploaded the photo I used in the recent past for my blogger profile and I was even more pleased with the results, which you can see for yourself above: 1% masculine, 91% feminine and 31 years old!!

Finally, I uploaded the photo I use currently for my blogger profile (the photo under "Your Hostess" in the right column of this blog). The results were more manly on the masculine/feminine scale (9% masculine, 91% feminine), but fabulous on the age estimate: 13-years-old!!!!   

Now I can shop at Forever 21 and H&M without feeling out of place!

 

 

 

Wearing Kate Spade.

 

 

 

Proud mother and “daughter,” a womanless beauty pageant winner.

Indiana

The so-called religious freedom law is more onerous to transgender folks than LGB folks because civilians are more likely to clock transgender folks than LGB folks (and then proceed to exercise their religious beliefs against us).

Put a transwoman, transman, gay man, lesbian woman, and bisexual bisexual in a line-up and who is your average civilian most likely to pick as belonging to the LGBT crowd? The transwoman and transman, of course.

More so than the folks in the LGB crowd, a lot of folks in the trans crowd will get clocked by civilians who are scrutinizing people to determine whether or not we are discrimination-worthy. Size is often our giveaway (big transwomen and small transmen) and there is not much we can do about that.

And stop calling it a "religious freedom" law. It's a freedom to discriminate law, that is, you are free to discriminate according to your prejudices and then use religion as an excuse. How twisted is that?

Tell me, Mr. Christian, if a transwoman needed some carpentry work done, what would Jesus do?

 

 

 

Wearing Kate Spade.

 

 

 

Actor John Lithgow in the 1992 film Raising Cain.

Out Sick Not Out

I’ve been sick. Stomach virus/flu wiped me out… so much so that I had no post here yesterday.

I’m feeling better today, but I’m a little down because I used a day off from work to play nurse rather than be a woman.

On the positive side, I did lose 4 pounds and I found the following image in Harper’s Bazaar that I just couldn’t let be. It is April 1st, after all!

 

 

 

 

Julianne Moore

 

 

 

Actor Ofer Shechter in the 2013 Israeli film Cupcakes (courtesy of Zoe).

Out of Here... Not So Fast

This girl has been cooped up all winter and she is ANXIOUS to get out!!! The weather is almost normal for this time of year, so I e-mailed my boss that I am taking the day off and high-heeling it out of here as soon as I publish this post! Not sure where I am going; it depends on how far I want to drive. West Farms Mall, Tanger Outlets, Mohegan Sun, Newbury Street, Fifth Avenue... I'll let you know tomorrow. And so I go. Well, I did not go anywhere. I took today off to deal with a stomach flu that I have been fighting all weekend rather than go out en femme. That's the bad news; the good news is that I lost 4 pounds!

Wearing Diane von Furstenberg.

Capucine, professional femulator, circa 1955.

Heather’s Favorite Photo (of Heather!)

Hi,

This is a photo of me taken a while back. I have always gone for a blonde image as I feel it suits my personality. In common with most of us, I have a huge number of photos but there is something about this one I like. I hope you can use it.

Love,

Heather

My open invitation to post your favorite photo along with the story behind it and the reason it is your favorite photo still stands, so don't be shy, send me your fave foto. ― Stana

 

 

 

Wearing Ann Taylor.

 

 

 

Actor Jannik Schümann in the 2015 German tv movie Mein Sohn Helen (My Son Helen).

Patri’s Favorite Photos (of Patri!)

Hi Stana,

I would like to be in your page Femulate. These are my pics.

Thank you and Kisses from Spain!

Patri Sánchez Monroe

My open invitation to post your favorite photo along with the story behind it and the reason it is your favorite photo still stands, so don't be shy, send me your fave foto. ― Stana

 

 

 

Wearing Single Woman.

 

 

 

Chris

Got Gifts?

Monica wrote, “I am trying to write a blog/essay on how being transgender is a gift and not a curse. The massive suicide rate amongst transgender people compared to the rest of the population suggests that being transgender is seen as a curse by transgender people... and by non-transgender people alike (hence the lack of support from the family and friends of transgender people).

“If we can focus on the positive side of being transgender and see the unique gifts that we have, then maybe we can help swing the general public's view of us as being a bunch of perverts to being truly gifted people. We can only win over the general population one person at a time. It is an arduous process and each of us must put in some time in the trenches to help change things. This is my attempt!

“So, what do you see as the gift(s) of being transgender? What unique perspective and irreplaceable view of life do we have? Just saying in the words of the Joni Mitchell song, ‘I look at life from both sides now’ is a bit vague and non-specific. We need more details to convince people.

“Would love to hear your views!”

Leave your responses as Comments (below) or e-mail Monica: monica.mulholland at gmail.com

 

 

 

Wearing BHLDN.

 

 

 

Actor Eddie Redmayne in the upcoming film The Danish Girl.