If you are uncomfortable using the public restroom of your gender or the gender you are presenting as, there is some good news: an online tool that locates gender neutral restrooms.
Refuge Restrooms "seeks to provide safe restroom access for transgender, intersex, and gender noncomforming individuals." Refuge is trying to fill the gap left by the Safe2Pee website, which departed from the Internet recently.
You can contribute to the success of Refuge by submitting gender neutral restrooms that you are aware of that are not already listed by Refuge. Monetary contributions will also be helpful.
For what it’s worth, I have never had an issue using the ladies’ restroom. So far, I’ve patronized ladies’ rooms in Connecticut, Massachusetts, Ohio and Pennsylvania and I no longer hesitate when I have to go no matter where I am. And by the way, ladies’ rooms are typically much nicer than men’s rooms; try it, you’ll like it!
A woman in menswear and a femulator in 2004.
Wearing Madeleine.