Today, I refer you to a commentary about Lana’s transition written by Andrew O’Hehir on Salon.
Titled “Lana Wachowski’s quiet coming-out party,” it is well worth reading.
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In other trans-related news, Gore Vidal, the author of Myra Breckinridge, died yesterday at the age of 98 86.
Oh, how well I remember reading Myra back in 1968 when I was a young budding femulator. The book was an eye opener and funny, too.
According to a report by Cavan Sieczkowsk in The Huffington Post today, “the director of The Matrix and the highly-anticipated film Cloud Atlas has become the first major Hollywood director to publicly come out as transgender. Lana Wachowski revealed she has transitioned while promoting her new film.”
Read the whole story here.
Shapewear is my friend in girl mode. With shapewear, my bust and hip measurements increase a little and my waistline shrinks a little.
In yesterday's post about fall fashions, I mentioned that "under the cover of fallwear, women like us can use all sorts of shapewear and tape (surgical and duct) to mold our bodies into more feminine figures."
If I wear something low-cut and want to show cleavage, I use surgical tape to bring my girls closer together. It is very effective as can be seen here, and is painless until I remove the tape (OUCH!)
For a smaller waist, I depend on shapewear. Some shapewear is more effective than other shapewear in this department, but in all my years of femulating, nothing beats duct tape for reducing the waistline and flattening the stomach.
I used duct tape for waistline and stomach reduction about 15 years ago. Back then, I wore a longline bra and high-waist girdle and wrapped the duct tape over the girdle and bra for an amazingly small (for me) waistline.
Since the tape never touched my skin, it came off painlessly at the end of my femulation. The only problem was that the tape left a sticky residue on the girdle and bra that was impossible to remove completely. This necessitated ducting each time I femulated, otherwise the tape residue would stick to the clothes I was wearing. Since I did not want to duct my gut every time I femulated, I abandoned the trick and resigned myself to a thicker waistline.
Until now.
Online, I found a solution to the problem. Before applying duct tape, apply a layer of plastic wrap, then apply the duct tape over the plastic wrap. Using this method avoids the sticky residue; it also allows you to apply the plastic wrap-duct tape combo directly to your skin if you want to go without shapewear altogether or if you want to wear the shapewear over the duct tape to fine tune your figure.
By the way, it is best to use one continuous strip of duct tape for each go around your waist. Place the first strip of duct tape at the narrowest part of your waistline and apply the subsequent strips above and below the first strip.
I have used as few as three and as many as five strips of duct tape around my waist. Your mileage may vary to achieve a gorgeous hour-glass figure.
Fall fashions are my favorite.
I am not a summer person. I don't like the heat, hate humidity more, and dread summerwear because the clothes of summer are too revealing.
It is not that I mind showing a little skin, but it requires a lot of hair removal. For example, when I wear a skimpy bikini to the beach, it requires hours of depilation.
I prefer autumn. The clothes are less revealing and require less prep in the hair removal department. Also, under the cover of fallwear, women like us can use all sorts of shapewear and tape (surgical and duct) to mold our bodies into more feminine figures.
Although I prefer fall fashions, that does not prevent me from having fall fashion failures.
Don't you hate it when you see a dress on the rack that you like, try it on in the dressing room, conclude that it looks fab on you in the mirror image, pay for it, take it home, wear it out and then see photos of yourself wearing your fab find and discover from the photos that the dress looks awful on you?
Luckily, I found an article on Stylist that may prevent fashion faux pas this fall. In Fall Dressing for Your Body Type, Karen Klopp writes that the key to fashion success is "to embrace your body type and pick clothing that will flatter it, not fight it!" And her article tells you how to do it.
My body is apple shaped, that is, "fuller on top and in the midsection and slimmer on the bottom." The photos accompanying this post are what Ms. Klopp recommended for the apple-shaped.
I particularly like the DVF dress dress on the right, but with a $398 price tag at Nordstrom, I will shop for something similar.
My wife was watching a Katherine Hepburn film yesterday and she wondered if Kate had any kids.
I said I didn't know, but I mentioned that she was gay.
My wife retorted, "What about her affair with Spencer Tracy?"
I said Tracy was gay, too. The "affair" was something cooked up to cover up their real sexuality.*
Then we discussed how it is different today and how people are coming out all the time these days.
Wife said, "Not everybody. Would you go to work dressed as a woman?"
I replied, "Sure I would."
She had nothing more to say.
* Source: Bowers, Scotty (2012). Full service: my adventures in Hollywood and the secret sex lives of the stars. New York: Grove Press.
Face shaving can be a deal maker or breaker for a successful femulation. You could be dressed to the nines with a perfectly coiffed do and expertly applied makeup, but if your beard is visible. it ruins the femulation.
Currently, I use a Gillette Fusion manual razor with Edge shave gel to start the day. A new or nearly new blade in the razor gets me a very smooth shave that I have been unable to better using other products.
On those days when I am en femme 24/7, I touch up in the late afternoon or early evening with a Norelco rotary head electric razor. I use it without removing any makeup, then I touch up the makeup, which is a lot faster than removing my makeup, shaving, and then reapplying my makeup.
Assuming you are not one of those lucky girls who had electrolysis, how do you shave when you get ready to go out en femme? What products do you use? Do you use any tricks to to achieve absolute gorgeousness?
Please share your shaving modus operandi in the Comments section below.
Or, for that matter, the week before that?
Sorry.
Some weeks, the pickings are so slim that I can't pick.
And some weeks, I forget!
In either case, you can receive a full refund at the box office.
So, without further ado, this week's womanless pick of the week comes courtesy of Aunty Marlena, i.e., the 2011 edition of the People Unlimited Charities' Womanless Beauty Pageant.
By the way, People Unlimited will hold the 2012 edition of their womanless beauty pageant on Saturday, September 22 in Scottsdale, AZ.
Another by the way, in their ads for the events, People Unlimited call it a “womenless” beauty pageant, but everywhere else, they refer to it as “womanless.” Go figure!
Janie's blog post today inspired me to write the following.
One side of my closet is fresh and vibrant, the other side, not so much.
On one side of my closet, new items appear regularly and old worn-out items are replaced.
On the other side of my closet, there is dust on some items; old worn-out items are not thrown out unless absolutely necessary and are seldom replaced.
Guess which side of the closet is which?
The girl side of my closet is growing, while the boy side remains the same. It has gotten so crowded on the girl side that I moved all my special occasion dresses to an unused corner of my wife's closet.
My collection of shoes and bags is getting out of hand, too, and I am storing some of those items in my wife's closet.
I have not bought anything new from the men's aisles since late last winter and that was on the occasion of my regular undies purge in which I throw out all of my boy panties and camies and replace them with a fresh set.
Although the boy side of my closet is old and neglected, I buy new items for the girl side all the time.
It's like I'm getting ready to live as a woman full-time.
Good idea!
Blogger has a gadget for that and I added it to the blog last night (at the top of the right sidebar).
Starla passed along 76 new images for the Yearbook Femulations collection, which I uploaded to flickr today.
The following Yearbook sets have new images: Yearbook A (9 new), Yearbook C (3), Yearbook D (7), Yearbook E (6), Yearbook F (2), Yearbook G (1), Yearbook H (3), Yearbook I (1), Yearbook J (4), Yearbook K (1), Yearbook L (8), Yearbook M (4), Yearbook N (1), Yearbook O (5), Yearbook P (4), Yearbook R (3), Yearbook S (6), Yearbook T (4), Yearbook U (1), Yearbook V (1), Yearbook W (2).
There are two ways to view the newest additions:
Method 1: Open one of the Yearbooks sets (A through Z) and you will find the newest uploads at the end/bottom of the set. (The oldest uploads appear at the beginning/top of the set.)
Method 2: Open my photostream and you will find the newest uploads at the top of page 1. The uploads get older as the page numbers get higher with the oldest uploads on the last page.
By the way, the contents of the Yearbook A through Z sets are organized according to school name, for example, the photos from Hard Knox High School would be in the Yearbooks H set.
Enjoy!
Friday, I went to the Mohegan Sun casino to play slots and have fun.
It was a miserable drive from my home to the casino with heavy rain falling the entire trip. The bad weather and slowed traffic added almost 30 minutes to the normal 75-minute trip.
I arrived at the casino at 11 AM and found it busier for midday weekday than it has been in awhile. Either the economy is better or a lot of vacationers abandoned the nearby beaches of Long Island Sound for some dry indoor activities.
I played quarter slots for the first 90 minutes and was down about $10. After lunch, I switched to two-cents and one-cent slots and my luck improved. By the time I quit and headed for home, I had $248 more in my purse than when I arrived!
People-wise, I had one very interesting encounter. When I ate lunch --- a glass of seltzer and a salad topped with grilled chicken --- I sat at the bar rather than at a table in Big Bubba's BBQ because I wanted to check out all the breweriana on display behind the bar.
Half way through eating my salad, I had a new real life experience! A middle-aged guy sat next to me, ordered a beer, and began chatting with me.
I cleared my throat, spoke softly and held up my half of the conversation.
After about 10 minutes, I emptied my glass of seltzer and the guy asked me if he could buy me a drink.
"Where was this going?" I wondered. I did not want to find out, so I played the spoken-for card.
"No thank-you," I said, "I'm happily married."
"Is your husband here?" he asked.
"What difference does that make?" I asked.
"Well, he is a very lucky guy."
"Thank-you," I said.
"It was nice meeting you."
"Nice meeting you, too," I returned.
With that, he paid his bill and left the restaurant.
Wow!
There is nothing else unusual to report except that I noticed a few guys checking me out throughout the day. I interacted with other people, both male and female, customers and casino staff alike, and everyone treated me like a lady.
The only negative thing about the day is that I forgot my camera. The accompanying photo is from my trip to Dayton in May. I basically wore the same outfit to the casino as in the photo. The only difference is that I wore a different pair of leggings; same color, but with lace-trimmed cuffs instead of zippered cuffs.
It was another wonderful day!
On the big screen, there were Tony Curtis and Jack Lemmon in Some Like It Hot, but they dressed in 1920s flapper styles --- an attractive style, but difficult for this young girl to emulate during the Jackie era.
On the small screen, Milton Berle made an occasional appearance en femme, but his femulations were strictly for laughs; they were clownish and often ugly --- nothing this girl wanted to copy.
The New York newspapers occasionally had ads displaying professional femulators at Club 82 and I so wanted to dress in showgirl drag like the girls at 82, but let's be practical.
There were no femulators that dressed like women dressed in the mid-1960s... no one I could look up to for inspiration.
Finally, one evening watching television in 1964, I saw a great femulation of a mid-1960s woman on a new episode of The Munsters --- of all places! In that episode, character actor Cliff Norton played a cop who disguised himself as a woman (see photo) in order to trap a guy who was accosting women in the park at night.
Norton's femulation left an impression on me for a very long time. He was not a beautiful woman, but he passed and more importantly, he was dressed like a mid-1960s woman in the styles I knew and loved and wanted to wear.
(The title of The Munsters episode is "A Walk on the Mild Side" and you can view it online in a number of locations; just search on "'The Munsters' 'A Walk on the Mild Side'" and you will find it. The femulation occurs near the end of the episode in case you want to fast-forward to it.)
I seldom discuss politics here.
Weeks ago, I added the Trans United for Obama button to the blog without a word. The button spoke for itself; if you wanted to know more, click on the button and it took you to a website where you could learn more.
Today, I received the following e-mail.
I really do not like your placing an Obama button on your home page. There is no real freedom down the road of that ideology and I am opposed to this president and his snuffing out of individual initiative and honest dealing.
Even if we disagree, why turn your site into a political commercial -- as if there were only one way to see things. That is the common arrogance of the left.
I guess it is time to explain why I added the Trans United for Obama button to the blog.
I support candidates that support me or my cause; always have, always will. I am transgender and my cause is equal rights for transgenders.
Consider the records of President Obama and the presumed GOP presidential candidate, Mitt Romney.
More has been accomplished by the Obama administration for transgender rights than all 43 other presidents combined. Those accomplishments include:
Ending the Social Security Administration’s gender “no-match” letters and allowing for true gender passports.
Ensuring that transgender Americans can receive true gender passports without surgery.
Establishing guidelines to help protect transgender federal employees from discrimination in the workplace.
Making sure transgender veterans receive respectful care according to their true gender through the Veterans Health Administration.
Former Governor Romney's administration and friends in Massachusetts have less than a stellar record regarding transgender rights.
In 2006, Romney’s administration blocked publication of a state antibullying guide for Massachusetts public schools because officials objected to use of the terms “bisexual’’ and “transgender’’ in passages about protecting certain students from harassment.
As a reporter for the Boston Herald, Eric Fehrnstrom, now Romney's "most trusted" adviser, gleefully outed a Massachusetts transgender woman, Althea Garrison, ending her political career.
Unlike the Obama campaign website, no where on the Romney campaign website is there a mention of transgenders. However, in my opinion, Romney's championing a Federal Marriage Amendment to the Constitution defining marriage as between one man and one woman does not bode well for an expansion of transgender rights under a Romney administration.
President Obama supports my cause, Governor Romney does not, so I support President Obama.
Enough said.
Laurence Anyways is a 2012 Canadian film that tells the story of impossible love between a man and a woman after the man decided to have a sex change, according to IMDB.
The film competed in the Un Certain Regard section at the 2012 Cannes Film Festival where Suzanne Clément won the Un Certain Regard Award for Best Actress. The film was also awarded with the Queer Palm Award at the festival, according to Wikipedia.
After watching the trailer, I want to see the film.
Thank you Accro for alerting me about it.
As I get older, I find it tougher and tougher to see what I'm doing when it comes to applying my makeup. Putting on my glasses doesn't help for the obvious reasons of not being able to work around the lenses. Unfortunately, contacts are out for a number of reasons as well.
I've tried a couple of the hand-held magnifying mirrors but they seemed to have far more distortion than actual useable area. I quickly gave up on them. Do you know of anything larger out there -perhaps a full size magnifying vanity- that hopefull wouldn't have so much distortion? Obviously, we all age and not all of us can (or choose) to wear contacts. So there must be a solution somewhere.
Thank-you,
Monica
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Hi Monica,
Makeup glasses are my solution to the problem. These special eyeglasses come in a variety of styles.
One style consists of an eyeglass frame with only one lens that you flip from one eye to the other. When you make up your right eye, you flip the lens over your left eye. When you make up your left eye, you flip the lens over your right eye.
Another style has two lenses. You simply flip the lens down and out of the way of the eye you are making up.
In some models, the lenses are available in a variety of stengths. If you do not know which strength you require, go to a pharmacy that sells reader eyeglasses and try on different strengths to see which one is best for you, then order the makeup glasses in that strength.
Various companies make makeup glasses; Google "makeup glasses" and you will find a variety. Here is an example that costs only $3.99.
Since I do not need makeup glasses (yet), I have no real life experience using them and cannot recommend one brand over any others, but I hope that helps.
Best Wishes,
Stana
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Need advice concerning femulation or other crossdressing-related matters, then e-mail me and I will happily give you my opinion on the matter. My e-mail address is stana-stana at sbcglobal.net.
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| Marion County High School, Jasper, TN, 1985 |
This photo of two "girls" represent one of the 45 new photos that Starla unearthed from online high school yearbooks and that I added to the Yearbook Femulations collection on flickr.
Enjoy!
By the way, if anyone has photos of their own high school femulations that they would like to share here, please pass them along and share I will.
How do you respond to a compliment? With a gracious thank-you or with a self-deprecating remark?
I am so guilty of the latter, whereas I know I should just smile and accept the kind words.
Image consultant Ginger Burr addresses this very matter in her recent blog post "Watch Your Language."
I read it, I get it and from now on, you will hear nothing but thank-you's from me.
