Transgender in the Real World

I will be attending the True Colors Conference today. In light of that, I leave you with an appropriate article that my friend Jila sent me: "5 Shocking Realities of Being Transgender the Media Ignores" by Amy P.

The article may be preaching to the choir here, but I think it is worth reading and a good article to pass on to anyone you are trying to enlighten about being transgender.

Also in light of that article, I want to mention that although Hollywood often does a lousy job of portraying transgender people, they usually do a good job making-up and dressing the actors who portray transgenders.

So when I post a photo here of an actor portraying a transgender woman, please realize that I am posting it to show the quality of the physical presentation and I am not endorsing the film itself and how it may portray transgenders.

And so it goes. And may you go forward this weekend with spring in your step!

Professional femulator Barry Scott, circa 1970

Dorothy Malone

Occupied

The last few days, my mind has been occupied with the True Colors Conference.

For those of you who just tuned in, "True Colors is a non-profit organization that works with other social service agencies, schools, organizations, and within communities to ensure that the needs of sexual and gender minority youth are both recognized and competently met."

Every March, True Colors hosts a two-day conference at my alma mater, the University of Connecticut, where thousands of GLBT youths and their supporters from throughout the USA meet to attend what is essentially a GLBT youth convention.

This year will be my sixth trip to the Conference. Except for the first trip when I was just testing the waters, I have presented each time evangelizing the normality of crossdressing and encouraging male-to-female crossdressers to get out of the closet and into the sunlight where they can blossom as women.

My presentations have been well-received, but every year as the Conference approaches, I consider tweaks and changes to my presentation to bring it (and me) up to date. And that is what has been occupying my mind lately.

On of the biggest changes this year was changing the name of my presentation.

In the past, the name of my presentation contained the word "femulate." You know what femulate means and I know what femulate means, but someone off the street perusing the Conference program probably won't know what femulate means and will consider attending some other  presentation on a topic they recognize.

So I jettisoned “femulate” and renamed my presentation "Crossdressing Successfully in the Real World." I think everyone will know what that means and might be intrigued to hear me speak.

Wish me luck!

 

 

 

Actor Dave Foley femulating on Canadian television’s The Kids in the Hall, circa 1991.

 

 

 

Wearing Boston Proper.

Say “Cheese”

How many crossdressers does it take to change a light bulb?

Three – One to climb the ladder to change the light bulb, one to hold the ladder, and one to photograph the event.

Whenever I am out en femme, I bug people – friends, acquaintances and strangers alike to take my photo. My excuse is “to feed the blog.”

You readers want to see photos of girls like us out doing things in public like girls like them, so my reason for getting photographed is legitimate. But that is only part of it; there are other reasons.

I like to see how I look in the photograph. Does the outfit I put together look good together or did I err grievously in my fashion judgment?

Do I pass as a woman? If I pass at least in the photograph that increases my chances of passing in public.

And when I am not en femme, I like to have a photo on hand of myself en femme to remind me of the good days. That is why I have a photo on my desk at work of myself en femme at work on Halloween.

(It is funny how nobody has ever commented about the photo on my desk at work. Frequently visitors to my cubicle will look over my shoulder at that photo which sits on the desk behind me, but no one has ever said a word. I wish I could read their minds.)

 

 

 

Femulator extraordinaire Vincent McDoom.

 

 

 

Wearing Madeleine.

News from Abroad

Carmen e-mailed me over the weekend with femulating news from France.

The Femultor image that I posted here yesterday was the result of Carmen's e-mail, that is, Alexandre Styker's portrayal of a transwoman in a French television movie, Belinda et Moi, which aired on Saturday.

Carmen also mentioned that on March 8, her and some girlfriends visited Chenonceau Castle and Gardens.

These days, it is not that unusual for transwomen to go out and see the sights, but what happened to Carmen and her friends was very unusual --- a local newspaper (La Nouvelle Republique) publicized their visit in print and on the newspaper's website!

How cool is that!

By the way, Carmen is second from the left in the photo the newspaper published.

Bambi, a professional femulator, in French street style, circa 1965.

Wearing 10 Crosby Derek Lam (dress) and Joie (booties).

Statuesque Stars

Most of my free time this weekend was spent working with Turbotax. I finally buttoned up my tax return about 5 PM last night and crashed in front of the television.

The 2013 version of The Great Gatsby was on HBO, so I gave it a look. Visually, it was beautiful --- recreating New York City of the 1920s. And the actress playing Jordan Baker was stunning.

I did not recognize her, so I looked her up. She is Elizabeth Debicki, who happens to be half Polish and half Irish (Happy Saint Patrick's Day) and is 6 feet 3 inches tall!

With that I guess it is time to update my Famous Females of Height List.

Besides Ms. Debicki (photo right), I have two other additions to the list:

5’11” Toni Tenille, the singer of Captain and Tenille fame. (Source: Peaches)

5’8” Vanessa Angel, a model and actress, best known for the film, Kingpin.

Have a stunning week!

 

 

 

Actor Alexandre Styker (right) femulating in Belinda et Moi, a 2014 French television movie.(Thank you, Carmen, for the heads-up concerning this film.)

 

 

 

Wearing Madeleine.

Caught

As a teenager, I dressed in my mother's and sister's clothing whenever I was home alone.

One day, I was all dressing up in my parent's bedroom when I heard the garage door open. That meant that my mother and sister had arrived home.

I high-tailed it to my bedroom upstairs, stripped off the feminine attire and returned to boy mode as quickly as possible. Then I stashed the girly stuff in a hiding place so I could return it to its proper place later whenever  the opportunity arose to do so.

Then I went back downstairs as if nothing happened.

"Why are my shoes out?" my mother asked from her bedroom.

Nuts! I forgot to grab her high heels when I high-tailed it upstairs. I had to think quick and come up with an excuse.

One of my hobbies was cartooning, so my excuse was, "I had to draw a high heel shoe and needed a real shoe as a model."

"OK," she replied.

I don't know if she bought my excuse or not, but it was clues like that that made her suspicious. Eventually, she figured out what was going on, but she never let on that she knew.

By the way, the cartoon above is pretty accurate. That dress is the style that my mother wore when I was in my early teens and white gloves were a must, so much so that I always wore white gloves when I femulated back then.

 

 

 

The Bigwood Twins, professional femulating brothers, circa 1930.

 

 

 

Wearing Madeleine.

Clip-Ons Redux

Following-up on my earring transition post on Wednesday, some readers wrote that one reason they prefer pierced earrings to clip-on earrings was because of the pain that clip-ons inflicted on the ears.

I too have suffered the pain and agony of clip-on earrings, but I have found two solutions.

1. Sometimes the clip-on earrings are too tight and need adjusting. Loosening the earrings’ grip on your ears differs depending on the style of the clip, but usually requires only a little bending of the offending clip.
2. Even after loosening the clip, I have had earrings that persist in torturing my ears. In that case, I resort to slipping pads (like these) over the clips to soften their grip. That solves the problem in most cases.

Have a beautiful weekend!

 

 

 

The talented Harvey Lee, professional femulator, circa 1945.

 

 

 

Wearing Haute Hippie.

Who Likes Shorts Shorts?

Aunty flickrs Womanless

Regular Femulate contributor Aunty has posted a slew of womanless images on flickr. Check it out if you like that sort of thing (and who doesn't?).

True Colors Conference

I will attend and present (“Crossdressing Successfully in the Real World”) at the True Colors Conference next Friday (March 21) at the University of Connecticut.

"True Colors is a non-profit organization that works with other social service agencies, schools, organizations, and within communities to ensure that the needs of sexual and gender minority youth are both recognized and competently met."

Harry Benjamin’s The Transsexual Phenomenon

I was looking for a copy of Harry Benjamin’s classic work The Transsexual Phenomenon. It has been out-of-print for awhile. Amazon had a used copy for $300 (hardcover) and $50 (paperback). However, I found a copy for free here.

Replying to Comments

If you are wondering why I have not replied to your Comments for awhile, the reason is that something in some software somewhere was preventing me from doing so. Each time I tried to reply to a Comment, my reply would vanish when I tried to post it.

I was determined to figure out what was going on. First, I thought that it might be a blog setting that was causing the problem, but no matter how I optioned the settings, the problem persisted.

Then I tried using a different browser and the problem went away. Using Safari, I had no problem replying to Comments (and I replied to over a week's worth). Going back to Chrome and the problem returned. Don’t know why, but I do know the workaround: use Safari.

 

 

 

Actor femulating in boy’s prep school production of Hairspray in 2013.

 

 

 

Wearing Rag & Bone.

I’m Transitioning

I’m transitioning pierced earrings to clip-on earrings using the converters that Avon sells. After some trial and error, I have the transitioning procedure down pat.

Step 1. Bend the post of the pierced earring 90°. To avoid snapping the post off the earring, use a small pair of needle nose pliers to grasp the post at its base and slowly bend the rest of the post 90° with your thumb.
Step 2. Using a glue that will bond metal, apply a dab of glue to the bent post with a toothpick.
Step 3. Insert the post into the tube of the converter.
Step 4. Position the earring at a 90° angle with relation to the converter. Let the glue dry thoroughly.

You can skip using the glue, but soon the post will loosen inside the tube of the converter. Then the earring will flop around and fall out of the tube. The glue stabilizes the post inside the tube and I recommend using the glue.

UPDATE: It is early, but I have already received comments and e-mails suggesting that getting my ears pierced is preferable to using clip-ons. My reply is that if I was living as a woman full-time (or nearly full-time), I would consider getting my ears pierced. But since I am part-time and have a big investment in a large collection of clip-ons, I will stick with the clips.

 

 

 

The femulating French Lolita.

 

 

 

She is reputed to be a femulator, but I don’t know for sure.
Nevertheless, I love what she is wearing.

Tea for Two Times Three

After I went shopping at the mall Friday morning, I attended an afternoon tea with five of my friends at Tea Rose's Tea Room in Downtown Cromwell.

My friends included four girls like me and the spouse of one of the girls. I have known these women like forever. (Talk about small worlds... one of the girls is the cousin of one of my best friends from grammar school.)

For over two hours, I enjoyed drinking tea, eating tea sandwiches and mini-desserts and chatting with my friends in a beautifully-appointed tea room. We were referred to as "ladies" and treated as ladies by our hostess. It was all very nice.

My only complaint was that I drank too much tea and had acid indigestion later in the afternoon. A woman's got to know her limitations, so next time I will drink less tea.

 

 

 

Holly Woodlawn femulating in the 1971 film Women in Revolt.

 

 

 

Wearing Daily Look.