Happy Birthday, Patty Loveless

Professional femulator circa 1955 (I love her gown!) 

Wearing Alice and Olivia.

Put Me In, Coach

In March 2009, I won a drawing for one month of free life coaching.

To tell you the truth, when I entered the drawing, I had no idea what I was getting into. I kind of heard of life coaching in passing, but really did not know anything about it.

Since I had never had any counseling, I jumped at the opportunity to spill my guts to someone who would listen.

For one hour each week for one month, I met with my life coach on the telephone. One month turned into two months and two months turned into two years.

My life coach was wonderful. She listened as I talked through things and bounced ideas off of her. In the process, I drew myself out, discovered myself and began living as much as possible as the woman I am.

Life coaching may not be everyone's cup of tea, but it worked for me and I am forever indebted to the coach of my life.

The Femulated / Femulate Her

THE FEMULATED:

Actor Jack Whitehall femulating in British television’s Hit the Road Jack, 2012.

 

FEMULATE HER:

Wearing Bluefly.

Perfect Fit

The shoes I ordered from Nine West before Christmas arrived today. Like my two previous purchases from Nine West, they were a perfect fit.

Unlike purchases from other shoe sellers, the sizes of the Nine West shoes are consistent and I can depend on Nine West whenever I order shoes in my size.

Something I missed when I ordered the shoes was a silver "Love Fury" medallion located under the arch of the shoe (the medallion is visible in the accompanying photo behind the heel). The medallion adds a little blomng to an already attractive shoe.

The Femulated / Femulate Her

THE FEMULATED:

Elizabeth, Illinois, high school femulator, 1979.

 

FEMULATE HER: 

Wearing Newport News.

New Year "Babes"

Starla gifted me with 140 new femulation images that she found in online high school yearbooks. I uploaded the images to flickr and you can view them now.

To view all the new additions to the Yearbook Femulations Collection:

Method 1: Open one of the Yearbooks sets (A through Z) and you will find the newest uploads at the end/bottom of the set. (The oldest uploads appear at the beginning/top of the set.)

Method 2: Open my photostream and you will find the newest uploads at the top of page 1. The uploads get older as the page numbers get higher with the oldest uploads on the last page.
By the way, the contents of the Yearbook A through Z sets are organized according to school name, for example, the photos from Hard Knox High School would be in the Yearbooks H set.

The Femulated / Femulate Her

THE FEMULATED:

Minette, professional femulator, circa 1964.

FEMULATE HER:

 

Wearing Torn by Ronny Kobo.

 

Happy New Year

What channel is Guy Lombardo on tonight?

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The Riddle of Blush

Blush is still a bit of a mystery to me.

I have two shades of blush that I use interchangeably. Both came to me when I had makeovers; the makeup artists recommended the shades for me and I took their word for it. After all, they were the experts and I went to them seeking their advice.

But how did they decide those shades suited me. I did not ask and I do not know.

Daily Makeover to the rescue! Their "How to Choose the Perfect Blush" uncovers the mystery and I recommend it to you if you are as blush clueless as I was.

 

The Femulated / Femulate Her

THE FEMULATED:

 

Actor Johnny Depp femulating in television's 21 Jump Street, 1988.

FEMULATE HER:

 

Wearing Spiegel.

And don't forget about Miss Edie Haskell?

THE FEMULATED:

 

Actor Ryan Eggold femulating in the film Queen, 2011.

 FEMULATE HER:

Wearing Spiegel.

And High E

The Femulated / Femulate Her

THE FEMULATED:

Actor Rupert-Graves femulating in British televisions'
Open Fire, 1994.

FEMULATE HER:

 

Wearing Le Redoute.

Not "Delicate"

Suggested by Patio (thank-you, Girl!)

The Femulated / Femulate Her

THE FEMULATED:

 

Actor Evan Peters femulating in the film Gardens of the Night, 2008.

FEMULATE HER:

 

Wearing Victoria's Secret.

 

It's a Mixed Up Shook Up World

This gender role reversal music video has it all: pregnant males, male nurses in high heels, fishnets, and see-through minidresses, males wearing makeup, males acting femininely, females acting masculinely, etc., etc., etc.

Anyone have the English translation of the lyrics?

The Femulated / Femulate Her

THE FEMULATED:

Actor Peter Capaldi femulating in UK television's Prime Suspect 3, 1993.

FEMULATE HER:

 

Wearing Pleasure Doing Business.

 

The Femulated / Femulate Her

THE FEMULATED:

 

Actor Mackenzie Crook (right) femulating in UK television's Blakes' Junction 7, 2005.

FEMULATE HER:

Wearing L'agence.

Happy Christmas

 

I wish all my readers a very merry Christmas.

(Yes, that is me in the Polaroid above --- 20 years younger in December 1992.)

The Femulated / Femulate Her

THE FEMULATED:

 Actor Lee Pace femulating in the film Soldier's Girl, 2003.

FEMULATE HER:

 

Wearing Free People.

 

Boobs

All I want for Christmas is my two front teat!

Not really. My girls are fine except for one thing: the hair on my boobs grows back faster than any of my other body hair.

Whereas my leg hair grows back very slowly and my arm hair grows back quicker than my leg hair, nothing compares with my boob hair. Whether I use a razor or chemical to remove my boob hair, next morning, new hair appears.

I guess all I can do is keep on pluckin'.

The Femulated / Femulate Her

THE FEMULATED:

 

Actor Chris Evans femulating in television's Opposite Sex, 2000.

FEMULATE HER:

 

Wearing Tibi.

Booties

My Avon order came in yesterday. It included the cute booties (above) that I was able to order on special as an Avon rep ($20 versus  their $50 original price). The booties have faux-fur trim, suede-covered button accent, and 3-5/8-inch heel and are irresistible, but I resisted buying them at their original price because the largest size was 11.

I own many shoes in size 11 that fit fine, but about half the time, size 11 does not work for me. I did not want to order the shoes for $50, then have to send them back if they did not fit. But at $20 a pair, they were irresistably irresistable!!!

As it turns out, they fit perfectly. Now I have to put together an outfit to wear with them!

The Femulated / Femulate Her

THE FEMULATED:

 

Actor Jeremy Stockwell femulating in the 1970 film Dinah East.

FEMULATE HER:

 

Wearing Alice and Olivia.

MTV's House of Style Visits Trans Punk Rocker

 The Cut has the story and video here.

The Femulated / Femulate Her

 THE FEMULATED:

 Los Angeles femulators, 1949.

FEMULATE HER:

 Wearing DVF.

Work, Shoes and Vacation

I wrote here awhile back that my manager, a male, was let go in the fall of 2009. A female replaced him and she reported to a male VP.

That male VP announced that he will retire December 31. His replacement is female.

As a result, starting January 1, I will report to a female who also reports to a female.

The boys' club is becoming a girls' club. Either way, I fit in.

***

The chatter about my Halloween day en femme at work has died down to zero.

Some blog readers commented that since I have done three Halloweens at work en femme, my co-workers probably suspect something is up.

I am sure that they do, but no one has said so out loud to me, although, one fellow made the following comment in a feigned sarcastic manner, "Yeah --- you just happened to have that outfit handy to wear." 

***

Nine West, my go-to shoe store, is having an excellent sale. I just bought a pair of $89 platform pumps for $48.

***

Starting today, I am on vacation until January 2. I don't expect that my time-off will affect the daily blog postings here, but if I miss a day, don't worry --- I am just vacationing and will be back real soon.

The Femulated / Femulate Her

THE FEMULATED:

Actor Michael Fassbender (right) femulating in a deleted scene from X-Men: First Class, 2011

 

FEMULATE HER:

Wearing Alice and Olivia.

What’s “feminine” anyway?

Man Carrying Purse

Whenever I recount my trans biography (like at outreach), I usually mention that as a youngster, I participated in sports (baseball and football) and played "boy games" (cowboys, war, spacemen, etc.). I felt that I was a typical boy and I enjoyed doing "boy things," unlike many of my trans sisters, who as children, hated "boy things" and preferred "girl things."

I also mention in my bio that despite my participation and enjoyment of those boy things, other boys called me names like "sissy," "fairy," "faggot," etc., which indicated to me that I was not necessarily all the boy I thought I was.

This was not just a case of bullies using random offensive names to raise my ire. Even a few of my friends told me that I was not acting like a boy at a 100% level and that I should do something about it.

I wondered if there was something in my mannerisms or speech that caused their reaction? I was not intentionally acting or speaking in an affected manner. Rather, I was speaking and acting in my natural manner, which I did not feel was feminine.

The fact that even friends told me that something was amiss indicated that something really was amiss, but I was clueless. I had no idea what I had to do differently to be more boy-like. So, I continued acting the same way I always acted and if someone called me a name, I hit them with my purse.

Even in high school, college, and law school, I occasionally ran into guys, who commented on my particular flavor of masculinity, but I just shrugged them off and kept on truckin'. By then, I was crossdressing in secret and only coming out en femme for Halloween including an appearance in drag at a Halloween party in law school.

I will never forget a friend of mine at that party telling me that he never realized how feminine my speaking and mannerisms were until he saw me in drag. He indicated that my female costume was a perfect fit for my normal mannerisms and speech.

After mentioning this story at outreach one time, one of the students said that my mannerisms were feminine and that my friends and acquaintances had been in the ballpark in their estimation of me.

Yet, nothing has changed. I still do not affect a feminine persona. I still act naturally and no differently whether in boy mode or girl mode.

I admit that I do try to walk more like a woman when I am en femme and I talk more softly when I femulate, but most of what you get is the genuine me. And I am not changing a thing.

The Femulated / Femulate Her

THE FEMULATED:

 

Rockers Freddie Mercury (left) and Roger Taylor (right)
femulating for The Great Pretender video, 1987

FEMULATE HER:

  

 Wearing DressBarn.

Christmas Time (Is Here Again)

The Femulated / Femulate Her

THE FEMULATED:

 

Danila Kovalev, femulating male model

FEMULATE HER:

 

Wearing Ann Taylor.

Like Father, Like Daughter

There is some truth to the above cartoon on a personal level.

Doing the laundry Sunday, I found a load of clothes in the dryer that belonged to my daughter. As I was sorting and folding her clothing, I noticed that she and I wear the same style of Victoria's Secret panties. Hers are a size smaller than mine, but some of the colors and patterns of her panties matched mine exactly!

We both also wear Victoria's Secret bras, but our bras are not an exact match like our panties.

My daughter also has a penchant for high heels. I guess she takes after her Daddy!

The Femulated / Femulate Her

THE FEMULATED:

The Who drummer and femulator, Keith Moon.

 

FEMULATE HER:

Wearing New York & Company.