After I ate lunch at work on Friday, I went to the kitchen to get a fresh cup of coffee and I found my best female friend preparing a salad for her lunch.
Two years ago, my friend and I had planned a girls' night out, but she cancelled on me at the last minute. I was very disappointed and I was kind of cool towards her for a couple of weeks. I don't know if she noticed, but after the frigid weather, things returned to normal between us more or less. Less because I stopped sharing all my transgender adventures with her as I had in the past.
I had my iPod Touch in hand when I walked into the kitchen, so I decided I would test the waters. I told her I wanted to show her a recent photo and she seemed very interested.
I showed her the photo I had taken before attending my law school reunion. She thought I looked "stunning" and she asked me to e-mail her the photo, which I proceeded to do.
We repaired to her office and indulged in about 10 minutes of girl talk until she had to take a business-related phone call.
I told her all about my reunion. Then we got on the subject of aging and she was shocked when I revealed my age to her. She thought I looked younger than my age and I mentioned how I use moisturizer and eye cream. That led to talking about selling Avon.
Then she asked me if I could have one wish granted to me, would I wish to live as a woman the rest of my life? Absolutely, I told her and I added that I would live 24/7 as a woman now if I could.
Then the phone rang.
I am glad that I tested the waters with her and that she was happy to talk to me woman-to-woman.
Saturday, June 30, 2012
Girl Talk
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Suits Me Fine
My best female friend at work really put herself together nicely yesterday.
She wore a (new to me) brown suit (jacket and pencil skirt that skimmed the top of her knees), a pretty dark red satin V-neck blouse, and a pair of suede high heel pumps covered with patches in different shades of brown.
I could not contain myself and told her she looked "great." Then I added, "When you dress like that, I want to dress like that." (In truth, I want to dress like that no matter how she dresses, but she is an inspiration to me.)
She was very flattered.
I also remarked, "I love your shoes."
Having discussed the good, the bad, and the ugly of women's shoes in the past, she mentioned that her shoes were very comfortable.
I replied that's icing on the cake (or something like that).
My friend is on the employee activities committee, so I asked her if the committee had any plans for Halloween this year.
She said they had no plans so far.
I told her that I wanted to come dressed en femme on Halloween and I planned to do so whether the company celebrated the holiday or not.
She encouraged me to do so and added that she did not think anyone would give me a problem.
I replied that nothing would bother me and that I would find out who my friends were.
Then she suggested that I submit a suggestion to the activities committee to celebrate Halloween.
The first thing I did when I returned to my desk was to write that suggestion and e-mail it to her to share with the committee.
Whether there is a Halloween celebration or not, I have now made up my mind that I will attend work en femme on October 31.
And, by the way, she preferred the business woman costume idea over the airline stewardess costume idea.
Friday, November 19, 2010
Stana’s Stuff
TGIF
I love the Friday before Thanksgiving. It is on the cusp of a weekend, followed by a short work week and a four-day weekend!
TDOR
Although there is a Transgender Day of Remembrance event nearby tomorrow, a scheduling conflict prevents me from attending. Family comes first.
Femulate Her
I select the images I use in the “Femulate Her” sidebar for a variety of reasons. Usually, because I like the outfit; it is something I wish I owned or could wear.
Occasionally, I select the image because in addition to liking the outfit, the model has physical attributes that resemble a transwoman. Today's “Femulate Her” image is an example of that in my humble opinion; your mileage may vary.
Outreach
Professor Schildroth e-mailed me to ask if I could do outreach at her two human sexuality classes. I happily accepted her invitation, so I will be visiting Southern Connecticut State University soon.
30 Rock
I love 30 Rock; it is one of the very few television shows I always watch.
It seems that during the past year or so, every episode has at least one trans reference. Last night’s episode had two.
Maybe I don’t watch enough television and trans references are more common than I think, but it seems to me that 30 Rock has a lot more than the other television shows I frequent, not that there’s anything wrong with that.
Girl Talk
Yesterday, a co-worker who knows about Stana wore black calf-length boots with a 3- or 4-inch stiletto heel.
I said I liked her boots and that led to a girl-to-girl conversation about boots, footwear, and the local consignment shops.
I showed her my photo from Saturday night and she loved my dress and shoes, which led to further girl talk about high heel slingbacks and the pitfalls of wearing them.
I enjoyed the girl talk.
And I love being a girl!
Friday, August 27, 2010
Girl Talk
Liz was holding up a black cocktail dress and they were discussing the merits of the dress. Naturally, I was all ears.
I was just waiting for Nan to joke with me about the dress because just yesterday, Nan asked me how my never ending diet was going and I told her I had slimmed down from a dress size 18 to a size 14.
Nan said nothing, but smiled at me like the Cheshire Cat.
I was surprised when out-of-the-blue Liz asked me what I thought about the dress!
I did not feign disinterest. Instead, I examined the dress and told her it was very nice, especially for the price ($39 at Marshall's).
I am considering coming out to Liz; I can use another ally.
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
girl talk
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I went to the kitchen at work to replenish my cup of coffee and found the woman I came out to last month doing the same.
We talked a few minutes about coffee, tea, caffeine, and their negative affects with regards to sleep.
When I thought the conversation was over, I said, "See you later."
She said, "Before you go, I want to pass along some shopping advice."
"What advice?" I replied.
"Don't buy knee-highs at Wal-Mart."
She complained that they were not very sheer, they looked like support hosiery, and they stretched too much. She then hiked her long skirt up a bit to show me their lack of sheerness. She added that she preferred to buy her knee-highs at Target.
I tried to keep up my end of the conversation, but I was a little surprised about having such a girly conversation... not so much that she engaged me in such a girly topic and treated me like another woman --- that was actually very nice, very affirming.
What surprised me was that our girly conversation was taking place in a very public location at work within earshot of a few cubicles.
Anyhow, wow!