Going Places En Femme

By Franziska

My first modern days day out and about was in January 2013. Granted, I had been out dressed en femme a few times before – in my student days to be precise – but nowadays I cringe at the thought of how I was dressed and how I must have looked.

Starting in 2013, somewhere in my 40s, I was venturing out in public en femme in Frankfurt about once a month and as my skills and comfort level grew, I added challenges and activities, such as taking the subway, taking the train, having lunch, having dinner, going to the movies, visiting a theater or a museum, etc. 

It has always been my ambition to pass, to blend in, to be perceived as a woman doing things women tend to do. At one point, I occasionally started to visit neighboring cities by train or car. All these activities had in common that they – in case of an emergency – would allow me to return to the safety of our home very quickly (running, by taxi or otherwise). The number of scenarios you can come up with in your head, which you think you should return home as quickly as possible is large: lost or stolen handbag, sickness, accident, ruined wig, someone reading and pestering you, someone reporting you to the police, etc., etc., etc.

The much greater challenge – and even more crossdressing fun – starts when there is no quick and easy way out and you’d have to face the situation as is. This is what I was seeking when I started to take weekend trips crossdressed in 2022. Why would I want to do that? Because I like to challenge myself, I like to take risks, calculated risks and I like to expand my crossdressing skills.

How easy would it be to put on some lingerie, to hang out at home, to loll on the sofa, to watch TV and to enjoy a drink and a bag of chips. Very easy. Procrastination, however, only leads to degradation and decline. Not cool!

On the other hand, being proactive, challenging yourself, and taking risks, helps you grow in many ways. It enhances your problem-solving skills. Even better, it teaches you to identify potential problems at a much earlier stage. It creates new experiences and new opportunities; it expands your horizon, and it enriches your life. Taking risks and successfully navigating their potentially negative impact helps you to accomplish possibly unforeseen dreams and aspirations, it helps you adapt to changing circumstances, to build resistance and it reinforces and boosts both your self-confidence and your belief in your own abilities. Very cool!

Just make sure to start out with a plan. Make sure to set clear goals, to outline your steps and to make informed decisions. Put in some work to assess the desired benefits and the potential drawbacks of the risks you take. And most important of all, stay flexible, adapt to changing circumstances and adjust your plans as needed.

Crossdressing in public offers all of that to you, combined with all the fun you can have being out and about en femme.

Between the summer of 2022 and summer of 2024, I took four weekend trips crossdressed, from Frankfurt to Stuttgart, to Munich, to Cologne and to Düsseldorf. With one exception, they were door-to-door all-en femme activities, which means I leave home en femme with a big suitcase and a handbag, I present as a woman 100% of the time and I do not bring any male apparel with me. I travel using public transport only: walking to the bus stop, bus to subway, subway to central station, ICE high-speed train to my destination and taxi to my hotel. I wear a different and suitable outfit with each activity, which means five to six in total during a weekend trip and I deliberately vary my style: short and long dress, short and long skirt, pants and jumpsuits, sneakers, flats, sandals (if the weather allows) and pumps. 

When I start to plan such a trip, I first write up a little synopsis: idea and concept of the trip, location, sights, agenda, things I want to achieve or buy, challenges I want to address or master.

Taking a weekend trip en femme takes some thought-through preparation.

Things to start out with: bookings and reservations, such as hotel, train, theater

Things to do well in advance: wig selected and dropped off for grooming and styling

Things to do the week before: all outfits selected and put together, including shoes, scarfs, jackets, coats, handbags (day, evening, clutch), haircut, waxing, toenails polished

Selecting things not to forget to bring along: shapewear, nightwear, shaving equipment, make-up, (emergency) spare wig, glasses, sunglasses, jewelry, cellular phone with pink cover, camera, cash, credit cards, ID!

And things to do the evening before: fingernails manicured and polished, eyebrows styled, nose hair cut, ear hair plucked 

I take Friday off to have enough time to get myself ready and to pack my suitcase, take some pictures at home, take a deep breath and off I go.

You can find stories and pictures to these four trips and to all of Franziska’s single days out-and-about since 2018 on my blog at https://franziska-out-and-about.blogspot.com. Reporting on my weekend trips crossdressed typically starts with an announcement and a photo collage, likes the one in this posting, followed by one or two posting(s) per outfit with pictures including descriptions of locations and events, some trivia or historical background, but also brief reports on encounters and new experiences. 

These trips are the highlights in my “career” as a crossdresser. And so far, all of these weekend trips have been wonderful, uplifting, engaging, and fun experiences, and none of them has gone awry. They leave me with an indescribable sense of achievement. 

The next trip is booked already for May 2025 and the following one is envisioned for Fall 2025. And at one point, I might have to leave Germany for new challenges. I might have to face the challenge of flying en femme and in the end, these trips might have to be for longer than just a weekend. I’ll keep you posted (no pun intended).

Wearing Bebe

Sorelle Marinetti (the Marinetti sisters) is the name of an Italian swing singer trio starring three males singers in travesti fashion. Their names are Scintilla, Elica and Turbina Marinetti (respectively Marco Lugli, Matteo Minerva and Nicola Olivieri) (source: Wikipedia)