Have you gone to the opera?
By J.J. Atwell
The Marx Brothers made a film in 1935 titled A Night at the Opera. As you might expect from the cast, it was played for laughs. In addition to the expected slapstick, it also gave a good example of how things go at a big show like that. For a more recent film, you might want to check out Phantom Of the Opera for the scenes where the public arrives at the opera house.
Today, though, I’d like to write about going to a play in girl mode. I’ve actually done this twice. No, actually it wasn’t an opera. Instead, they were Broadway-style stage shows held in large venues. Exactly the kind of places with large lobbies where people mingle before the curtain while they show off their style.
Didn’t you already cover that outing?
Yes, you are correct, I did mention those outings in a previous Stuff. See Stuff 54 and 55, both from early January. They were such a great experience that I keep re-living them in my head. And what’s in my head tends to fall out onto the page when I’m writing.
With the benefit of hindsight, I should say that the whole experience wasn’t anywhere near as complex as I expected. I had imagined all kinds of situations where I would be exposed. None of that happened.
The first outing was at a smaller, regional playhouse and I was there with a half dozen other CDs and their SOs. We all went to dinner beforehand at a nearby restaurant. As a group, I didn’t think that any of us stood out as obvious CDs. At any rate, I’m sure that we were clocked by the servers and probably some other patrons at the restaurant. I’m not so sure about at the actual play afterwards, though.
The second outing was at a major, big city venue. I was there with two other CDs and their SOs, a party of six. Again we did dinner beforehand at a restaurant we had all been to before. We were welcomed back and had an enjoyable meal. From there we spent about 30 minutes in stop-and-go traffic to go the approximate two miles to the play.
When we finally got there and turned into the valet lane, we were greeted as ladies and into the lobby we went. That’s where I started to get concerned again because we had to show our tickets on our phone and then go through security. So there was indeed some extra scrutiny. But no alarms went off and we were off to find our way to our seats. Well, after a stop at the rest room that is. And hanging around in the lobby looking at all the various outfits. There was a huge variety in what the women were wearing. Some nothing more dressy than jeans and a t-shirt. Others really decked out in slinky, sequined dresses with stiletto heels. I envied several of this outfits and wished I could have pulled off that look.
That brings me to another point
I regularly go out to eat with my SO at fancy restaurants. We are regulars at one upscale steak house where the staff knows us by name and always welcomes us back. Whenever we go there, we see most of the women are really dressed up for the occasion. It got me wondering what it would be like to there en femme. What would I wear? Something that fits the definition of quiet elegance would be appropriate in that kind of place. Since we are so well-known at that particular restaurant, we would have to go elsewhere. Fortunately, there are several other places we could try.
I’ll be back
I’ve rambled quite a bit in this installment of Stuff, so I’ll end it here. There will certainly be more dreaming about outings en femme. In the meantime, I’ll be finding more Stuff to write about. I welcome comments and suggestions here on Stana’s blog or by email at Jenn6nov at-sign gmail dot com.
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Christian De Sica femulating in the Italian film Amici Come Prima (Friends Like Before). |
Well, if we are talking about going to the theater, I did catch a play this weekend but first I went to the Banff film festival at the Bushnell in Hartford. The festival is part of a world tour showing various films from the actual Banff Film Festival held each year in Canada. During intermission the lady next to me and I discussed the films as well as our families and our carers. (Possibly TMI, there were no problems using the ladies room the two times I need to.) On Sunday, I visited the oldest continuously operating playhouse in the state to see Murder Inn. I spoke with a few women and had a good time. We still need to be out there but be careful where we go. I think live theater is one of the safer venues
ReplyDeleteif you blend in nothing is going to happen. constantly looking over your shoulder spoils having a good time
ReplyDeleteI've been to movies a bunch of times but never a live theater which I am sure would be a bunch of fun. Dressing to the nines and you would fit right in. Sounds like a fun outing
ReplyDeleteSallee
Theatre a couple of times; cinema quite often.
ReplyDeleteLily
I went to the ballet at the FOX Theatre in St. Louis with a crossdressing friend about 25 years ago. We were dressed to the nines; appropriately for an audience of 75% female. I even wore my wife's full length beaver coat as it was the dead of winter. I was bored to tears with the ballet, but thoroughly enjoyed the dressing at a major event. I don't get out much now so appreciate all of the experiences you are having today.
ReplyDeleteOn another note, the recent Casa Stana header was one of the best AI generated pieces produced yet. It shows a picture of a gaggle of crossdressers, similar to what you used to find at a gender convention. All were dressed appropriately with styled wigs and not real hair. The wigs were subtle but noticeable (which is good). The setting was also appropriate for a convention tour of something.
Keep it up. I liked it.
Angel Amore
JJ, the actress in the fluffy, funny, Christmas movie "Amici come Prima" has dress up ideas for elegant events. These venues are ideal with attending afternoon matinees as starters then more crowded events. In many cases unless you dress out of place, they offer a great outing and the darkness provides some cover. Buttery popcorn and stick on nails may not be an ideal snack...twizzlers are better.
ReplyDeleteJJ dear, I too have found that at those type of events you can either wear jeans or get right formal.
ReplyDeleteEating at a nice restaurant I think you can wear a range of things depending upon the situation. A lone woman in a ball gown would look odd, but remember all those ladies you saw dressed to the nines at the opera ate somewhere. More than one girl dining at a restaurant can wear a range of clothes provided they are dressed similar.
Two ladies dressed in business attire would never stand out and attract attention.
Hugs
Norah
Stana, we would appreciate a double Brad picture or multiple Brads in different outfits waiting in the lobby for act 2 as new headers. Bradette is rocking the Chanel Hugs Brenda ( why are we curious on every log in whats happening at Casa Stana? FOMO)
DeleteJJ, I think you and your SO should go to that steakhouse en femme, along with your crew of usual suspects (you know who I mean). I don't think it would be an issue! The location of the restaurant is quite friendly to our community. And it would be a treat to get all dolled up and enjoy another great meal together! Hugs, Kathryn
ReplyDeleteWell, I've been to the Kennedy Center twice, before it was ruined by President Unnatural Disaster. I went to several Fringe shows, but that was less formal. And the 2010 Rally to Restore Sanity and/or Fear which was definitely not formal but I wore a skirted suit and was there among about 210,000 sane or scared people.
ReplyDeleteLet's see. I've been to Hamilton in Chicago, the Fox in St. Louis multiple times (usually with one GG friend, one time with three GGs; even got a "love the dress" comment), and a Wednesday matinee on Broadway.
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