During my brief hiatus last week, many of you told me how much you would miss the blog if I shut it down. You seem to have a lot invested in the blog, so I want to ask you what you would like me to write about. So send your suggestions to me via the Email Stana link just below my photo in the righthand column or use the comments function at the end of this post.
I look forward to hearing and acting upon your suggestions!
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| Wearing Ann Taylor |
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| Nick Sinckler, Kuba Szmajkowski, Marcin Januszkiewicz and Ewelina Flinta impersonate The Pussycat Dolls on Polish television's Twoja twarz brzmi znajomo (Your Face Is Familiar). |
Love the Ann Taylor dress - long short sleeves and below knee length . Encouraged to get this year's weight gain away.
ReplyDeleteI agree about the dress! And the silver clutch and heels are fabulous.
DeleteThat is a smashing dress! I was at an Ann Taylor Saturday, but I did not see that there. I think they keep the best stuff online. Stores are not what they used to be.
DeleteNorah
I visited the website to order the dress and they were sold out of my size!
DeleteHi Stana,
ReplyDeleteI would love to hear real stories from real people, as well as their advice.
Also historical stuff.
I feel quite strongly that the AI images have run their course. They have been fun for a while, but they are like junk food, which looks like food, tastes a bit like food but leaves you unsatisfied and eventually makes you ill. Let's go back to real images and drawings by ral people please! Even if that means a lot less of them.
BTW, the AI images show the inherent bias in the algorithm. No woman I know would dress like that and I supect any man who looked like that would be in grave danger.
I would not show the web site to my wife in its current form.
All the best,
Penny
I agree with much of what Penny says. I love hearing about real people and their interactions in the real world including simple daily activities. I also love success stories of transgender women and how they have taken a high profile in society and contributed to all of us. Your stories of attending Hamvention were always great for example. I guess these resonated with me in particular since I was an engineer during my career and found it to be a pretty misogynistic community.
DeleteI also agree with the AI images. For me they are just too much and there is nothing to be learned from them.
Keep the Femulate Her images coming ......I love your taste in clothes!
Stay Beautiful!
Lauren
"I would not show the web site to my wife in its current form." Why, Penny?
DeleteHi Stana. Would you please write about organizations dedicated to those of our ilk, and and events they hold? I go to the TCNE events, and I look forward to meeting you there one day. Will you attend Diva Social, First Event, Keystone or Fantasia Fair in the next 12 months?
ReplyDeleteAttendance at trans events depends on my spouse's health (I am her caregiver). Diva Social is doable since it is not overnight.
DeleteThe monthly Diva Social is a right blast! I've not been to the weekend getaway, but the monthly event is a very lively and welcoming experience.
DeleteNorah
Hi Stana!
ReplyDeleteI think all the topics are good, from raiding your sister's closet as a child, to your current out and about experiences.
That said, the greatest strength of this blog, and the thing that makes it right unique, is the broad and far reaching readership, and the interaction of all the readers in the comments among ourselves. It always seems best when you pose questions or work things so that it gets a discussion going.
Anyway, just my two bits.
Norah
Thank you for your input, Norah.
DeleteApparently Norah and I were drinking from the same pot of coffee this morning☕️
ReplyDeleteI enjoy everything you write about but especially enjoy the "audience participation" posts. Providing a prompt and allowing the readers to share their thoughts and interact with each other.
I never touch coffee love, but you are welcome to share my tea any time. : )
DeleteNorah
Hi Stana,
ReplyDeleteI'd like less ot the current AI headings, but it you have your readers send in photos of "HIM" and use AI tools to produce various pictures of "HER" it would be most enjoyable. Will be happy to send some pics at various ages to be prettily feminized.
I've always been intrigued and fascinated by all things female; maternity and all associated clothes followed obviously by motherhood (pretty nursing bras and so the only legitimate reason for oversized breasts) ; Don't forget older women for whom incontinene pads and knickers are more relevant than sanitary protection.
Of cà ourse I like out in the real world stories, preferably with cis women as companions (a little lesbian perhaps).
Whatever, keep up the good work.
Best wishes,
Lily (Belgium)
Thank you, Lily. I will have to research how to use AI to transition boy photos into girl photos.
DeleteLast Thursday there was a comment about what is crossdressing. What constitutes it. Just undies or more. What does it take to be a CDer? I was interested in hearing your view.
ReplyDeleteDictionary.com defines crossdresser as "a person who dresses in clothing typically worn by members of a different gender," so "just undies" is crossdressing.
DeleteThank you for continuing to support the cause. I find it hard to separate
ReplyDeletefemulating from the desire for intimacy. Would you or others be willing to comment?
A poet
Sorry, I am not much help because the desire for intimacy and crossdressing are personally foreign to each other.
DeleteI like all the suggestion being made I like them all Heres one how bout times your
ReplyDeleteStu, your suggestion was incomplete. Try again.
DeleteWhat should you do next? Continue to be both a advocate for the transgender and crossdressing community. Continue with your stories and adventures of your own experiences of being in feme and allow others to share their stories of both acceptance and heartbreak. Continue the advise of where on can shop and feel safe and invite others to share where they can go and be treated with respect. Ask readers to share, as you have done, how they have either mentored a young person or gave them the courage to be themselves. Perhaps someone sharing the struggles of the female is a transgendered male. ....as to the AI or cartoons I say continue to share them. They may bring a smile, they may help one see the humor in their life. I know for me it is important to see the fun and joy in the art of crossdressing or being in a role reversal then just the "fear of getting caught" would mean. Your blog means so much to so many, thank you for continuing.
ReplyDeleteSo I guess just keep on doing what I am doing.
DeleteIf it’s true a huge percentage of site visits come from China [and are real people], I would love to hear from some of them what the situation for crossdressing is like in that country!
ReplyDeleteon a serious note---our PR is in the dumpster. it seems that society is (finally) ok with gay folk but not us. what do you folks think about that? one thought: it is a fools mission trying to convince society that trans girls should compete in girls sports . this creeps over to a negative view of us across the board
ReplyDeleteYou are so right about that.
DeleteAngel Amore
I've heard the opposite; that as many as 60% are ok with trans folk. It's just that the biggest bigots seem to have the loudest voices.
DeleteI wouldn't mind a tutorial on how to participate more on the blog. Can I send in real life stories and photos
ReplyDeleteYes, Donna, send the stories and photos via email using the Email Stana link at the top of the sidebar.
Deletejust keep doing what you have been doing ! A positive view towards the femme world is so much needed, especially as we go forward for the next 4 years ... and remember ... join the resistance ! Even better, we are the resistance !
ReplyDeleteAnd, I know you were concerned about advocating public activities in the coming unfriendly administration towards all things trans ... might be prudent to suggest going out in small groups, possibly with a genetic woman or man, in unfriendly areas. But in several states, all variations of sexuality are welcome and even protected ... would suggest to gravitate to those welcoming areas in public activities and events. It would also boost their economies a small bit, which would be a nice way for the trans community to say thanks for the welcome.
ReplyDeleteI live in California and our state has complete employment protection for all levels of gender expression. With that said I will note that lived in the bay area most of my life within 15 - 30 minutes of SF. I experienced severe harassment in many places including SF. For the most part that is changing, but it has always felt safer in the suburbs than in SF. And some of the least supportive people have been gay men.
DeleteI posted yesterday, but another idea; Why not, as well as or instead of "Femulate Her" where a store or dress marque is named, have Wearing Hers. I have clothes from my ex and women friends so wearing hers is a quite frequent event.
ReplyDeleteOne day my ex invited me to lunch, with a difference. Nick arrived (with some things she couldn't provide (boobs, shoes and hair) and Lily left, several hours later in a complete outfit of hers, underwear, skirt and sweater (cashmere), make up, jewelry, accessories and coat. Can you imaginne the lady's happiness?
Happy to give a picture, but not, unfortunately of this first occasion.
LILY
ry perfume etc.
I've not really thought about what I would want to see on your site. I guess I am pretty happy with your content.
ReplyDeleteI would love to hear more about you and your life! I like people's stories. How does your relationship with your wife interact with your crossdressing. I think you said your sister knows, but does not interact with your female side. More information about these (and perhaps other people's family experiences) would be intriguing.
I would like to hear about the crossdressing/transgender experiences of other races/cultures. Currently, your blog is about as white as the upcoming US Government -- hmmm.. so is mine...
I guess that I now need to go back to my web site and make these changes myself! :)
Thank you for your blog. My feed was quite different without your content on it.
Joey
Maybe, establish an email address to submit short accounts from readers on various subjects that can be proof read and then posted. As an aged senior (77) I grew up in the 1950 and 1960's when anyone deviating from the norm was severely affected by societal norms and expectations.
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