When I say “it’s the little things that count,” I am referring to all the little things that together comprise a femulator. Reminds me of a trip years ago to attend First Event in the Boston area. Elaine was driving and I was riding shotgun en femme. I thought I looked pretty good and while I was admiring the false nails on my fingers, I noticed that (horrors!), I forgot to shave my hands! Luckily my electric shaver was accessible in my luggage in the back seat and I was able to fix that little thing before we arrived at the First Event hotel.
Checking into a hotel or using a credit card is another little thing. Most credit card companies will issue additional cards under the same account for other family members. So get an additional card issued to yourself, but just use the initial of your first name with your last name. For example, John Smith would get an additional credit card issued for “J Smith” to use when en femme. But that only works if John Smith goes female as Joan, Jean, Jackie, or some other female name starting with the letter J. (Lucky me, my male and female first names both start with the letter S.)
If you wear eyeglasses, next time buy a pair with unisex frames or if you can afford it, buy a second pair with a feminine frame. With an eyeglass prescription in hand, you can order eyeglasses online at very reasonable prices. (I recently bought a pair of girly glasses online for about $50.)
If you need eyeglasses for reading, you can buy inexpensive reading glasses with very feminine frames just about anywhere (the local pharmacy, Walmart, etc). Also, you can buy woman's sunglasses just about anywhere, too.
Voila!
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| Raimu femulating in the 1933 French film Théodore et Cie. |
I'd make one comment about the first initial - you might run into an issue with some people. I once got delayed and almost missed my flight (presenting male) at an unnamed US airport because a TSA idiot didn't like that my ticket only had my first initial while my driver's license had the full name. And like it or not, if you profile ... 40-something white man of European ancestry probably lands real low on the bomber list.
ReplyDeleteA great website for glasses is Zenni Optical. Very affordable
ReplyDeleteThat's where I bought mine.
DeleteAnd many eyeglass stores offer "2 for 1" sales. I have purchased a feminine pair with my regular glasses a few times and only rarely get looks or comments. Of course, I usually use my "I'm an actor and do female characters" line, too.
DeleteIf they're just reading glasses, do what I do -- got to The Dollar Tree and buy a handful of them for $1.25 each. I got most of mine before it became " The $1.25 Store". I have them in strategic places all over the house, in my glove box and in several of my purses. They have a lot of fun frames -- in sunglasses, too.
DeleteYes the details are important, I wear faux engagement ring, nice modest nails, modest jewelry, earrings, and I found a pair of feminine glasses at a thrift store that worked for me. These details send what Joanne Roberts called "gender ques" Their sum is greater than their parts. Here is a picture with the glasses
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They suit you well!
DeleteThe credit card info might be outdated. Most hotels require ID as well. More importantly, would you please republish that list?
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DeleteI read the list some time ago. After reading it again, i would suggest adding a feminine cell phone case, perhaps one with the wallet built in.
DeleteI had no problem getting an additional card in my femme name.they did ask for her SSAN but I informed them she was not a citizen and that was that
ReplyDeleteStana, I just learned that one must shave their hands especially when using stick on nails. Thanks for Sharing Hugs Brenda BTW a stick on nails refresher would bring new readers up to date.
ReplyDeleteIn Europe many regulations are different, and it can be hard to get an additional bank or credit card in another name without providing ID for that person., on the other hand we largely use contactless payments now so that has put a different slant on it.
ReplyDeleteThe most important thing to have is confidence, That will help others overlook all a sorts of things, just inhabit yourself naturally rather than play a part.