I’ve stopped counting the number of times I’ve been told, by those reading my series of Tricks of the Trade crossdressing advice books, that “I can't crossdress because I'm too tall.”
My response, to put it bluntly, is (fill in the blank)!!!
Height has very little to do with crossdressing! Just look around! How can you miss seeing tall, beautiful women? They are everywhere! And you can be a tall and beautiful woman as well with a little confidence and the complementing wardrobe.
Women are as pretty as ever. They’re also taller and their shoe, dress, skirt and jeans sizes are bigger. The average height and weight for a woman has increased by one inch to 5’4” and has gone from 150 to 166 pounds in the last 20 years.
When I started crossdressing almost 40 years ago, the Internet did not exist. In the department stores, I could not find decent fashions, let alone shoes that fit. Women’s dress sizes seemed to stop at size 12 to 14 before one had to go in to the large woman or maternity section. Nice heels over size 10 were nearly impossible to find. I somehow managed, but girls today are so fortunate with almost all their needs available in the stores and on the Internet.
I stand close to 6’3” in heels, weigh about 175 pounds and I have never heard a negative comment regarding my height or my body shape. Why? It’s probably due to my “learned” feminine style and fashion sense, body language and mannerisms. If you carry yourself properly, nobody will even think of you as anything other than a woman.
Recently, I was standing in a crowded concessions line at a public event and one of the most beautiful ladies I have ever set eyes upon walked up behind me. She had shoulder length blonde hair and was wearing a lovely long sweater and skinny jeans tucked inside her 4-inch heel boots. She stood at least 6’7”, maybe 6’8”.
Out of the corner of my eye, I could see a few people “gawk” at us as we chatted (maybe they thought we were basketball players or at least she was), but nobody made a disparaging comment. Why would they? We were just two tall women chatting while awaiting our order. What may have been “rare or abnormal” in the past is now “the norm.”
I have a number of crossdressing friends, among them Jamie Grae and Jennifer Williams, who are from three to five inches taller than me. Height has never stopped any of them from being out-and-about any time they wish.
Confidence is the key to cross-dressing, no matter how tall you are. Locking yourself in the closet because you are “too tall” is a huge mistake. The fear of being too tall can be overcome by going out and having the right clothes, too.
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I seems that there are even more taller women (and men) NOW than 40 years ago.
ReplyDeleteThere seems to be a trend that taller individuals are usually regarded as 'the leader' in formal and informal groups. I am hot sure how height and leadership correlate, but...
Check my Meyers-Briggs Personality Inventory: ENTJ -- 'Natural Leader', even as Velma
I am 6'-0", and I am always noticing more and more younger men and women who are taller than myself, so you wont be alone.
Being taller than average might bring you added, perhaps unwanted attention, especially when dressed 'enfemme'.....
As I have said on numerous occasions:
"No matter who you happen to be, from a physical standpoint, (be it height, or width, or gender)--
JUST OWN IT! Just LIVE it! There is nothing like the exhilarating feeling being 'the tall woman' walking while wearing high heels in a public space!
If the crowd disapproves, ignore them. There is an old adage in the investing community: "The crowd is usually WRONG!"
Velma
I think you’ll get a lot of comments on this as there are so many of us tall girls. All I’m going to say is that clothes look phenomenal on a tall and slender frame!
ReplyDeleteA couple of years ago, I was on my way home from an event and needed to stop at the grocery store. I was wearing 4" heels, which still only put me at 6'1", but taller than the average woman, anyway. Apparently, I made an impression on a man who was with his wife at the check stand when I walked into the store. As I was pulling a cart out of the rack, he walked right up to me and, after looking me up and down, said emphatically, "You are one monumental woman." I was taken aback by it, but just smiled and said, in a slightly quizzical way, thank you. I'm still not sure what he meant by it. Did he think I should be up on Mt. Rushmore? I've since decided that he must have meant to say "statuesque." At least he called me a woman, though!
ReplyDeleteIt's been a very long time since that stupid stigma on tall girls.I'm an oldie and remember there being tall girls who walked slumped down to "hide" their height. Looked like hell and it wasn't good for their backs. By the time my daughter was a teenager we were cheering for her to make it to 6' -- she nly made it to 5'10" (she's 52 now). Her daughters are 5"10 and 6" and have perfect posture. People have seen tall women playing Basketball for a couple generations,along with Volleyball. Hell, many of the young women on my Maryland University teams even have feet as big as mine!Be proud and stand tall and straight. The only way you'll fail to look great is if you slump down! Tell people you played BB or VB in school -- they'll think you're a hellofa girl!
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ReplyDeleteI have followed your blog for years and the picture of you in this post is one of the best ones I've seen of your face and hairstyle. Anybody who saw it without knowing more would assume you were a cis female.
Penny from Edinburgh.
Arent all super models built on a tall and slender frame?
ReplyDeleteI think Stana is working as a girl friday at her old employer sonce she is modelling her latest business wear
Brenda
I have come out to a couple friends as pan sexual, and as non-binary as I feel both masculine tendencies often, and I also feel very femme and have some femme tendencies... only downside is I’m 6’10”... so that’s very off putting for most men and pleading for women. Like yea it’s cool that I get to feel sexy as a man, but I don’t get to feel that way as a woman... I want to be able to dress up for guys whenever we meet, instead of them seeing me once, finding out they’re not into a 6’10” barely passable sissy... I just need tips, specific tips generalized around the fact that I’m 6’10”. Another forum said any 6’+ Woman strutting down the runway is empowering cause it was talking about not fearing wearing heels... but like how does everybody feel about a 7’+ model walking down the runway strutting her stuff??? Cause I would gladly be that, I just don’t have any idea how to make myself look good without getting naked and getting in poses that make my body look better than it actually is... please anybody help me!!!
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