Needless to say, I am very disappointed about not going to the reunion as a woman. I just have to be satisfied knowing that I would have been one of the better looking woman in attendance (my classmates did not age well).
On the other hand, it was great seeing high school friends and acquaintances who I have not seen in half a century and I had a great time.
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Wow, just......wow. All that buildup - the hemming and hawing, should Stana go or not, the decision, the anticipation, the relatively late wardrobe (dress) change, the drama - and it ends with not a bang, but a whimper - such a terse, depressed, morose shoulder-shrugging "oh, well...shit happens" ending.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry it didn't happen. But also surprised and wondering.....questions come to mind. Feel free to cite the "none of your business" or "don't go there, sister" clauses in the Friendship Manual.
Such as: how long have you known about this "home repair project" vs. the reunion? Was this a life or death situation (house will blow up, burn down, or be washed away if we don't do this NOW), or something that could have been done another day? Was there no one else who could have assisted this relative?
Frankly, it makes me wonder if this was one of those life situations where we (consciously or unconsciously) take on a last-minute obligation to provide a graceful, plausible and convenient excuse to avoid something that we were not wholly convinced was a good idea in the first place.
It's nice to be helpful to others, but unless this was a long-promised obligation to someone, I would have been more than happy to say "Gee, I have a really important thing to do that Saturday. Could we do the fixit job another day soon?" At our age, it's OK to be a little selfish about going for the gusto - YOLO, as they say.
The thing is, if you actually were nervous or still waffling about "reuning pretty" and backed out, I don't think many, if any, of your readers would have judged you for it. I certainly would not have.
So, were any of your old "tormentors" there? How do you think they would have reacted to Stana, based on your brief "read" of them at the event?
starla, you took the words right out of my mouth! if i had a pound the number of times i've found something else to do that conveniently stops me from going out dressed to face what might be uncertain circumstances...
Deleteno doubt like others i'm disappointed that stana blew out on attending the reunion as a woman, for whatever reason (and who knows, it may impact on any decision i make should i have a similar opportunity). however, as a form of compensation i would suggest that she organises another social event (taking tea, perhaps) with some of the ladies that were there so they can actually meet stana? or better still, find some way of bumping into the class boor at a later date to see if he recognises his old classmate dressed?
what hasn't been mentioned is whether or not anyone else at the reunion was told about stan's alter ego. perhaps stana can enlighten us there? i have never actually informed any school peers of mine about my tranny activities, even though our year has a facebook page. however a friend who was in the year below me (who still lives in the area, as do many others from that school) is aware, and he knows i'm ambivalent about staying in the closet. so maybe some of them have heard rumours on the grapevine?! if so they might even think that might help to explain why i was always considered an oddball at school ha ha!
i hope stana doesn't think i'm trying to take over her site, but the above has reminded me of another conundrum: as i say, these days i'm ambivalent about most knowing i'm a tranny. however the two people i am concerned about happen to be the only two people from my school year that i still keep in touch with!
Deleteour hometown has always been somewhat conservative when it comes to anything outside the straight and narrow (i joke that the town's welcome sign has a "a gay-free zone" notice underneath it!), and even now these guys make casual homophobic remarks in my company they way they used to at school. so you might ask why do i still bother with them? because one of them puts me up whenever i go back and visit for a few days (which saves a hell of a lot of money on hotel fees), and the other one is very useful to me in terms of building up my music collection. so even though i should like to be open with them, i feel it best to keep schtum and go along with the anti-gay comments for those reasons. i should be interested to hear how others in similar circumstances reading this feel about the above, and if they can offer any advice or suggestions? thanks.
gina v asked, "what hasn't been mentioned is whether or not anyone else at the reunion was told about stan's alter ego. perhaps stana can enlighten us there?"
DeleteAs far as I know, no one at the reunion was told about "stan's alter ego."
Maybe the universe was trying to tell you something. The problem is, no-one ever knows what that is.
ReplyDeleteMaybe next time, eh?
ReplyDeleteConsidering my class's track record for holding reunions, there probably won't be a next time, although one of the organizers mentioned that they may do something when we all turn 70 years old.
DeleteMurphy's Law is proved to work again
ReplyDeleteLucy
Yes indeed.
Deletesorry to hear it.. would have been interesting if you showed up and looked better than an ex, or a girl you had a crush on... or an ex-tormentor's wife.... and you probably would have
ReplyDeleteI checked out the competition... there were about 40 female classmates in attendance and I easily would have been in the top 5.
DeleteThis must have been so disappointing, after all the anticipation. But, as CallMeMeg says, maybe it wasn't meant to be this time. May there be another opportunity before long!
ReplyDeleteYes, I was disappointed, but seeing my old friends cheered me up.
DeleteSorry Stana did not get to go, I am sure it would have been a marvelous time. Just another example of life getting in the way while we make plans!
ReplyDeleteLife gets in the way almost every day! LOL
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