There ― I admitted it. I got it off my chest and now I don't have to worry about people accusing me of being an "overdresser" because I have come out to the world about it.
It is hard to overdress when you attend a trans support group meeting; many of the attendees overdress because the meeting may be their only opportunity to dress at all, so they dress to kill.
That being said, when I attended trans support group meetings, I was usually the most overdressed girl at the meeting. Hands down. No question about it.
I carried on my overdressing when I began going out among civilians en femme. The woman in a cocktail dress and high heels shopping at Walmart ― that was me. The woman in the sequin evening gown seated in the centerfield bleachers at Fenway Park ― that was me. The woman in the little black dress and pearls dining at Taco Bell ― you guessed it ― that was me, too.
At first, I worried about it because overdressing drew attention to me and by drawing attention to me, civilians might scrutinize me too closely and figure out that I was packing something extra underneath my periwinkle bridesmaid gown.
I sure did not want to out myself, so I began toning it down. But I soon found out that toned-down dressing was Boring with a capital B!
Blending in with all the other babes at Home Depot was just not my thing. I wanted to be outstanding in my field in heels, not flats.
So, I began overdressing again and I have never looked back because in the words of blogger Kate Fridkis, "Being overdressed is fun. You have to pull it off with confidence. You have to walk with your shoulders back, like you planned it. Like you're dressed up because you live a dramatic, impressive life. I mean, why not? Maybe you do."
Ms. Fridkis' "The Art of Overdressing" on The Huffington Post inspired this post and I urge you to go read it yourself; maybe it will inspire you to buy a red strapless dress to wear to AutoZone.
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| Wearing Rachel Zoe (Source: Rachel Zoe) |
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| Trevor Moore femulating on television's The Whitest Kids U' Know. |
Actually, at Wal=Mart simply wearing shoes and a clean t-shirt constitutes "overdressing."
ReplyDeleteI as well am guilty of overdressing - and for all the same reasons you have stated. In my mind, I justify going to the supermarket in hose and heels by developing the scenario of the working woman stopping to pick up bread and milk on her way home from the office.
ReplyDeleteMy female friends often ask me about overdressing, saying that "the average woman" doesn't wear hose and heels to a such-and-such event. And I usually come back with "if I'm going to crossdress, then I'm going to do it all the way. I can wear jeans and sneakers every day, but Julie gets to wear hose and heels - so there". They usually see my point. I have also inspired my Sister Friends to be more feminine and to enjoy dressing up for a Girls Night Out.
If you are gonna crossdress, then I recommend overdressing. If you are not going to have FUN and LIBERATE YOUR TRUE SELF, Why are you here? Life is short, overdress. YES I tend to overdress at our support group meetings. No regrets. Velma
ReplyDeleteThe problem with overdressing is that it attracts attention
ReplyDeletePeople look more closely at the lady concerned and realise that she is not what she appears to be
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