It's hard enough trying to make a decision that will effect the rest of my life without distractions and yet, my job has been a big distraction the past few days.
My company bought yet another company and the inevitable consolidation is now underway. Among the co-workers let go was my boss. She was a top-notch manager and very supportive of my diversity (she suspected I was transgender before I came out to her).
My new manager was her old manager. She is also very supportive of the woman I am. But reorganization follows quickly on the heels of consolidation, so I don't know if this working arrangement has much of a lifespan.
And so it goes.
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Artur Chamski femulates Helena Vondrackova on Polish television's Twoja Twarz Brzmi Znajomo.
Sometimes, in my opinion, not making a significant change in our lives is a decision in itself. Unlike the decision to transition, the decision to hold off is reversible when the time is right. I suppose there is a point in life where the decision to transition can no longer be made, but you still have time. Wishing you the best, life is short so enjoy every day of it.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Danielle.
DeleteThings like this happen from time to time in the business world. You may never know how long it takes for the dust to settle. Hang in their.
ReplyDeletePat
Over two weeks later and there is still a lot of dust in the air.
DeleteDear Stana,
ReplyDeleteI hope things at work stay the same (or get better) for you after the reorganization/consolidation. It's good that your new manager is aware and accepting of your feminine nature.
When things settle down, perhaps you could talk with your new manager, and verify that she (and the consolidated company) would still be fine with you working as a woman (if you choose to do that). Also, as I suggested a short while ago, you may want to have a "heart-to-heart" with your daughter. Getting the feedback about you working as a woman from both your manager and your daughter hopefully will clarify your decision as to whether you will broach the subject with your wife. If you do talk with your daughter, you may want to ask her to keep the conversation between just she and you; you could tell her that you would rather your wife hear your hopes regarding working full-time as a woman from you first.
I think the order of these conversations (if you choose to have them) with your manager first, daughter second, and wife third may be the best plan. Of course, based on the input from your manager and daughter, you may decide not to pursue your dreams at this time.
I certainly wish you the very best in your decision-making process.
Love,
Sheila.
Thank you for the advice, Sheila. I was going to speak to my manager first.
DeleteDear Stana,
ReplyDeleteI LOVE your latest 2 mentions of male singers femulating on TV. The men in today's link and yesterday's link each look fabulous. Each of them seems to be really enjoying their "girl time". Neither of them seem embarrassed or afraid to act really girly in their performances. Assuming that neither of them is transgender, Bravo to them for their wonderful femulations. Even if they are not transgender, I think they probably enjoyed the experience. I always appreciate seeing non-transgender males femulating very realistically. Lee Pace, a very fine actor, did a marvelous job femulating in SOLDIER'S GIRL (a Showtime movie). In interviews, he stated he was extremely proud to have played this role, and hopes the film sheds a light on some of the problems transwomen experience.
Love,
Sheila.
Yes, they look and sound fabulous. Too bad the US version of "Your Face Sounds Familiar" was short-lived.
DeleteThe universe it telling you something.
ReplyDeleteThe thing about "signs" is, you never really know what they mean.
It doesn't matter what you do ~ I'll continue to live vicariously through your eyes.
Thanks for that, Meg!
DeleteThe most powerful force in the universe......regret
ReplyDeleteNot regretting doing something, but regretting not doing something
My for whatever it's worth
Good Luck