When femulating out among the civilians, what are important things to keep in mind?
Jan
Hi Jan,
When I started femulating in public, I was afraid that people would recognize me as a crossdresser. As a result, I looked and acted as if I had something to hide; I walked with my head down, looked away quickly if I saw someone looking at me, and I avoided encounters with teenagers, with males, with anybody!
People who noticed, might wonder why I was acting as if I had something to hide and when they looked closer, they might figure out why ― because I was a guy crossdressing in public.
I was outing myself!
Once I figured out the error of my ways, I was determined not to out myself again. Since then, I have followed three rules that have helped me achieve that goal:
1. Act as if you belong, so walk tall and strut your stuff.
2. Don't look away furtively if other people look at you. Do the opposite: look back at them and disarm them with a smile.
3. You are a beautiful woman and you should be happy about it, so smile, smile, smile.
Best Wishes,
Stana
Do you need advice concerning femulation or other crossdressing-related matters, then e-mail me and I will happily give you my opinion on the matter. My e-mail address is stana-stana at sbcglobal.net.
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They never did anything interesting, like "gender switch day" back when I was in school. There weren't even Halloween Costume Days. The kids nowadays are so lucky!
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Same at my school. The only chance to crossdress in my school was to do something in the annual musical. One year, the basketball team did a number in bad drag. Another time, two guys did Tiny Tim and Miss Vicki - the guy doing Vicki appeared in a wedding gown and actually looked convincing.
Delete"Act as if you belong." Truer words were never spoken Stana when it comes to being out among civilians. I learned early on that self confidence was the absolute best way to move around in public without issue. Even when you are 5 feet 14 inches tall like I am, having confidence and exuding a sense that you belong always gets the job done.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Sally
I'm 5'14" too and since I developed confidence, height does not stop me from going out.
DeleteStana, All the ladies want to know if you were in the military or if you grew up under a military influence? Usually the people that I know who say a term like out among the civilians have some sort of a military influence or military background. Thanks and you go gurl, on behalf of the ladies, Stacey Anne Smith.
ReplyDeleteI was not in the military nor did I have some sort of military influence.
DeleteConfidence breeds confidence. I, like you experienced all you relate. Now I act as if I own the place, the situation, the moment. It took me a long time to be where I am.
ReplyDeleteTo dress like I do, full on "retro", seamed stockings, a hat and these days a walking umbrella takes, not just confidence but courage.
It comes but only with practise.
Courage is part of it, but I never think about being courageous. I just think about being myself.
DeleteI wish we had days like that growing up too.
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