Wednesday, April 8, 2015

Cursed

Back on March 27, Monica wrote here, “I am trying to write a blog/essay on how being transgender is a gift and not a curse… what do you see as the gift(s) of being transgender? What unique perspective and irreplaceable view of life do we have?”

At the time, I had nothing to say, so Monica asked me directly, “I would love to hear your take on what the gifts of being trans-gendered are (and the curse).”

Personally, I think I can summarize it this way.

Being transgender is a curse living part-time male and part-time female, as I do.

Being transgender would be a gift if I lived full-time as a female.

Living part-time involves living a lie in many ways and for me, living a lie is very stressful and a heavy burden on my psyche.

Living full-time would relieve me of those "part-time burdens." However, living full-time would weigh me down with new burdens, that is, the burdens of living as a woman in society today... burdens that I would gladly embrace because that is the way it's supposed to be.







Wearing Brahmin.






Actor Ben Porter in the 2004 British film School of Seduction.

6 comments:

  1. The lie and the lying really does take it's toll, I suspect that we do have insights that anyone who has lived all their lives in a single gender may miss.

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    1. I would to think that we do have unique insights....but I often wonder what they might be!

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  2. "Living part-time involves living a lie in many ways and for me, living a lie is very stressful and a heavy burden on my psyche."

    "sic, etiam me"

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  3. Growing up in the 1950's, there was no info out there. Christine Jorgenson was made fun of & it was a crime to be dressed as a woman in public. Now there is so much out there for M TO F & F TO M. I If were born later maybe I have be living as a woman today. I stll am happy I was born Transgender. I believe it has made me a better person.
    Hugs

    Diane

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  4. Also Stana Great pic of you & love suit

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  5. If one is happy presenting as a man as well as a woman and vici versa then probably quite fun. BUT if one hates ones own body and as Stana has said living a lie it is a curse I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.

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