There is not a lot to say about dinner. The meal and the dinner conversation were great, the restaurant staff used the proper pronouns, called us “ladies” and seemed genuinely glad to have us as customers.
There were only a few other diners and they did not seem to notice us, except for one. Midway through our meal, a couple, probably in their late 60s, were seated opposite us; the woman had her back to me, but her dinner partner (I assumed it was her husband) was facing me and almost every time I looked his way, he was looking at me. His facial expression showed neither approval or disapproval, but he was studying me intently; so much so that I thought about going over to him and asking him if we knew each other. I was certain that I did not know him, but maybe he knew me or thought he did or something else was going on. (I think something else was going on, but I don't know what.)
After dinner, I drove across town to Real Art Ways for their monthly Creative Cocktail Hour. “Real Art Ways is one of the United States' leading innovative contemporary arts organizations, with programs in Visual Arts (commissioned public projects, curated exhibitions, education), Live Arts (innovative music of all kinds, performance, spoken word) and Film and Video (feature films and artists' videos)”
Real Art Ways is a very cool venue and has openly welcomed transgender folks for over a decade. Over the years I have attended about 20 of their Creative Cocktail Hours. It attracts a very eclectic crowd and is always an interesting evening.
Thursday’s installment was like old home week. In addition to Diana, three other girls from my old support group showed up and we had a good time talking about the old times as well as the new times.
We were ensconced strategically on the deck outdoors, which is the gateway between the indoor and outdoor activities. As a result, I saw everybody as they passed to and fro and they had an opportunity to see me. And I could not help noticing the guys, especially the middle-aged and beyond checking me out.
It was all so affirming, but a little disconcerting to receive so much attention and nothing more. None of the admirers made an attempt to approach me or my friends nor strike up a conversation. It was great conversing with my old friends, but it would have been interesting/different to interact with an admirer, too.
On the other hand, maybe they were not admirers. Maybe they were just amused by the appearance an obvious femulator.
On the other hand (that's three hands now), maybe they were just intimidated by an attractive woman and afraid to do anything but gawk.
Yeah --- that's the ticket!
Anyway, I called it quits early --- at about 8:30 PM. It was a long day and a woman's got to know her limitations, so I said my goodbyes and rode away into the sunset.
Wearing SVEE.
Contestant in the 2012 Mz. Relay for Life womanless beauty pageant in Cape Coral, Florida.
ReplyDeleteAll in all a great day to be out and about. I opt for the third hand...that's the ticket. I sense that folks are intimidated and unsure how to approach an attractive femulator. I am sure that we all recall our high school days when some of the cool pretty girls were not approachable...at least in our minds. I do not think that there are any courses offered on how to approach a femulator or what to say when you are chatting up a T-person.
On the one hand they do not want to be offensive...on the other hand they may not want to seem to show too much interest in a T-Person in that others may think that their interest is a bit off and on the third hand they may not want to risk being wrong about reading you as a femulator.
Just my idle three cents.
Pat
The one super person power I wish I had was the ability to read minds!
DeleteSometimes I have thought to myself...Oh I have been read. Only to later discover that the person found me tall or attractive and didn't even consider that I might not be a genetic woman. He maybe found you a tall attractive lady...which clearly you are!
ReplyDeleteStana your legs are 100 miles long and most women would kill for them!
xo,
Joanna
That has happened to me, too, Joanna, and isn't it great when it happens!
DeleteWelcome to the woman's world. Attractive women get male attention and looks all the time. It is what men do. In my opinion, you have crossed over :-}. One warning, be aware of your surroundings and begin to think safety.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the advice, Susan!
DeleteI'm with Joanna. Your height alone I think scares off many guys..but...my genetic straight attractive women friends tell me it's rare they get an admirer brave enough to "chat them up". Really with you, you can throw the "femulator" aspect out of this...you were doing what any smart woman would do. You put yourself in the best position to be social with a man.
ReplyDeleteI guess I am doing my part!
DeleteLegs that long deserve three hands!
ReplyDeleteLOL
DeleteI'll go with the third hand, too. People look at tall attractive women with a sense of awe. Meaning that you are clearly awesome.
ReplyDeleteThat is kind of you to say, Davina.
DeleteMost men, don't have femulator radar. So chances are they were ogling you because you are a very beautiful woman!
ReplyDeleteI hope you are correct, Holly.
DeleteThe pond house cafe sounds like a wonderful place to spend an afternoon with a few friends! I love those kinds of venues when femulating. Is elezibeth park the large park in the middle of Hartford?
ReplyDeleteElizabeth Park is located in the west side of Hartford, right on the West Hartford town line. The park in the center of Hartford, which surrounds the state capitol building is Bushnell Park.
DeleteThanks Stana! It's going on my bucket list! Did you know at certain times of the year, you can kayak through the underground river that used to be above ground at bush ell park
DeleteI agree, I think men are checking you out because you are very attractive and because most women of a certain age (me for instance) are wearing jeans and running shoes. I wonder, if maybe a less formal venue than a sit down restaurant would make it easier for admirers to approach?
ReplyDeleteThe cocktail hour venue is very informal. People stand and sit around in groups, view the exhibits, listen to the band, and/or dance.
DeleteI have noticed that really pretty girls get hit on less than the more average ones. I think the combination of height and glamour may be intimidating. I was at South Coast Plaza a few years ago and a model came in with her assistant to shop and men were staring and practically drooling but no one approached her except other women and sales people.
ReplyDeleteGreat legs Stana, and I really like the nude pumps. Very cute.
ReplyDeleteAs well as you do, Stana - if your friends were as lovely as you, the admirers may have been unsure if you were Twomen or GGs, and were afraid to embarrass you both if they were wrong
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