If being a woman is such a good fit for you, the gods obviously intended that you live on the feminine side of the gender continuum (even though they erred during the installation of the plumbing).
The plumbing is a handicap, but don't let it handicap you from living the life you were intended to live.
I know I should practice what I preach, but I have an excuse, although I do live as a woman as often as I can. And you may have an excuse that is just as legitimate as mine, so you are excused.
But to the rest of you who have no excuse, you are not excused.
If you've got it, don't flaunt it --- live it!
The predominant excuse is Fear! For each it is different.Loss of and of and of and of. People go to any lengths to not feel thier true feelings. That includes being honest about gender. It has been my experince working with others for over thirty yeats honest with one's self comes with what looks like a high price.."dare to be different" was the class motto in my last year of high school.I was in my 50's and finished raising a large family before I even knew about my being "different" Courage takes sacrifice or does it only appear that way.I am cheerleader for all and dedicated to everyone's freedom
ReplyDeleteYou are my idol and will be as long as I am allowed to stay on this plane of existance.Those short timse I have to pretend to be male brings the funds for the wardrobe. All the Macy clerks know me and I am proud that they do.
Blessings
Marilyn
The labels to this post provide part of the answer to the question. The first label is crossdressing. If you are a woman dressed as a woman are you 'crossdressed'? If you are a man, crossdressed as a woman then you would not be dressed full time as a woman since you are a man crossdressing as a woman and not a woman.
ReplyDeleteI suppose we can also parse the other label words, transgender and transexual. Where does one fit on the spectrum and is the position static or dymanic?
"If you got it flaunt it." What is 'it'. Do we ask Curly from 'City Slickers' to defing 'it'?
For me I do not think that the gods intended for me to be on the feminine side of the continuum. But that may just be me. A part timer by nature and choice.
Pat
You assume that we all were born with the wrong plumbing, but that isn't always the case. Many of us are somewhere between the 2 genders and don't fit entirely into one or the other and so we comfortably flow back and forth at will between them.
ReplyDeleteI am a part-time crossdresser and am very content being so. I like my male life as much as my female life, and I don't want to give it up any more than I want to give up my girl time. I respect that there are people who feel that they would be happiest living full-time as a woman, but that's not true for me or true for a lot of part-time girls. A lot of people have trouble understanding that this is not an "either/or" situation, but that some of us can be happiest with "both."
ReplyDeleteFor me, my male biology and socialization are as much a part of me as Mira (my feminine side).
ReplyDeleteI don't necessarily think I was born in the wrong body. I'm a biological male. I just have a prominent feminine side that needs to be freed quite frequently. But when I'm dressed in a dress shirt and jeans, that's me too. It shifts.
Oh, there are many obstacles, or excuses if you preffer. I won't detail them, though I understand fear, but I will state one:
ReplyDeleteElectrolysis.
Really. My electrologist requires a few days' worth of facial hair growth, so she will abel to pluck each dying hair after zapping it.
The area treated stays tender and swollen for a day or two, and putting makeup on it is not recommended...
I'm not complaining. Depsite the pain and inconvenience my neck and cheeks are almost fit to be seen in public.
And that's priceless.
Wow now there's a challenge, of course for many of us there is the simple matter of a marriage to be considered, but apart from that there can still be parts of being male that are fun, worthwhile rewarding and fulfilling. Yea sure I would like to spend more time as a woman but that means less time as a man, and both are good. I feel specially privileged to be able to occupy both grounds.
ReplyDeleteSage advice, Stana.
ReplyDeleteI do my very best not to let my "plumbing" handicap me from living the life I want to live. At least I'm pretty sure this life is something I want, it may also be simply something I feel I must do.
Do I live as a woman? Yes, but not full-time.
Do I live as a woman as often as I can? Yes, but that usually includes very familiar men-friends, I fervently hope you know what I mean! I'm routinely accused of having low morals but I've also been told I have "it" but I'm not in a very flattering position when that gets said.
I only flaunt it while I'm behind closed doors, which is usually when I'm living it!
What's a T-girl like me supposed to do? lol!
I would love to be able to live full time as a woman. However, marriage, work, children, etc prevent that from happening. I think sometimes about how my life would be different if I had accepted my true gender at an earlier age instead of three years ago. I would not have the loving wife and children that I have now. So, for those of us who cannot go full time, we have to make the best of both worlds. And as Paula stated, we should be privileged that we are able to occupy both grounds. Sure, I feel much more at ease with myself when I am in girl-mode, but my male life is just as rewarding. The only thing I wish for is acceptance from my family.
ReplyDeleteMy situation-the parameters of which were determined long before I came to terms with my transgender identity-preclude exploring my femme side as much as I would like. Were this an ideal world, I'd love the chance to explore as much of my feminine side as possible, for as long as possible, -to find out if I would truly like to live full-time as she rather than he. My gut feeling is that indeed would be the case, but that remains conjecture.
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