I often write about going out en femme. It is exhilarating, invigorating, validating, and the most fun I can have without taking off my clothes. However, there is always a little fear in the back of my mind whenever I go out en femme.
My fear has two components.
- If I pass as a woman, I am a target for males who target women.
- If I don't pass as a woman, I am a target for males who target men dressed as women.
I am big and strong and if I was ever attacked, my attacker might regret it, but that does not lessen my fears.
President Roosevelt was correct and we should not let our fears debilitate us. My fears are not going to stop me from going out en femme; it is something I have to do.
Today, we must remember the dead trans sisters and brothers whose fears became their realities, but we must also continue to move forward away from the closet and validate our existence in society.
My wife and I discuss this often: she points out that the feminine in the world is barely allowed to exist freely, safely, without being attacked, oppressed, used by males... she is very sensitive to this, as I have been. We really see this equally!
ReplyDeleteAs I see it: In a world where the feminine is valued, upheld, and strong, and seen to be equal to the masculine in all ways: then maybe also crossdressing and TGism will be allowed to freely be...
And maybe more women will support it too...